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[–] 10 points 5 months ago (15 children)

I would hate to be interviewed by you, asking for respect of medical privacy is "snapping back"? No wonder it sucks so fucking much to find a new job.

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  • [–] 45 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    Legalese style “I will not be discussing this matter any further” in an interview does give off future lawsuit vibes.

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  • [–] 45 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    Yeah, a much more normal way to say that is “I was dealing with a medical condition. It’s no longer an issue, but it’s a bit personal, so I’d prefer if we didn’t get into more than that.”

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago

    I mean, you asking to explain my medical history is lawsuit vibes.

    "I didn't know this gap was for medical reasons" Why the fuck are you asking about a gap in my work history in the first place? What I did 5 years ago is irrelevant to this interview today.

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  • [–] 10 points 5 months ago* (9 children)

    It's so weird to draw weapons in response to that. Do you really always assume the absolute worst intent when someone asks open-ended questions? If so, it's hard to feel bad for you. You are one of the worst kinds of coworkers to have.

    "Hey tocopherol, do anything fun this weekend?"

    "How I spend my weekends is none of your business and I'm offended that you even though asking was appropriate!"

    "Ok dude have fun sitting in your car at lunch"

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  • [–] -1 points 5 months ago (6 children)

    What are you talking about? You're the one assuming the worst and being weird by not respecting a simple request in an interview! You just told me you assume they are going to escalate minor inconveniences because they requested basic respect.

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  • [–] 6 points 5 months ago (5 children)

    Throwing a boilerplate legal defense in response to a question that's most likely being asked casually is a total tone shift. No one's going to think, "wow, this person really knows their rights!"

    It almost makes you sound guilty of something. Preemptively defensive when you haven't been pressed in the slightest

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    I didn't assume it had to be stated like a legal disclaimer, whatever kind of response a person makes it's good to match the interviewers tone. I agree with you that you don't want to come off confrontational, I didn't read it that way.

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  • [–] -1 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    Yeah, casually asking something on a job interview

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  • [–] 6 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    What kind of jobs have you applied for where the interview was an interrogation requiring you to be defensive? Every interview I have EVER had has been friendly, from field construction to corporate offices.

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  • [–] -1 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    A professional interview in which personal questions are being asked inappropriately is not even close to friendly banter between co-workers.

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  • [+] -9 points 5 months ago*

    Lots of people don't struggle to find jobs. Maybe you could take 5min to reflect on why some people would call this "snapping back", rather than post a snarky comment.

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