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It seems like you're describing a model that helps you understand or reason about or predict your behaviour or that of others.
Im sure that similar things exist in the formal science of psychology, even if they have different terminology.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy deals with this in a way. In the same way we have physical habits, we also have cognitive or thinking habits.
For example, if you're in the habit of thinking that high school acquaintances remember all the embarrassing things that happened in that period of your life, then your default behavior when you encounter someone at the supermarket might be to pretend not to recognise them and turn down an aisle. If you challenge that assumption by reminding yourself that you dont really think about things other people did in high school, then your new default behaviour might be casual disregard for those people.
As an aside, for me personally "forcing" myself to do things doesn't work. For example, forcing myself to jog every day will make me miserable because I hate jogging. OTOH riding every day feels like a really satisfying achievement because I do really enjoy riding.