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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by choihanna@lemmy.zip to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

As I mentioned in a previous post, I (Gen Z) was a parentified kid. My parents (millennials) didn't actually raise my younger brother... They didn't even parent him.

My brother is 12 now and I've always noticed that he lacks a lot of basic skills, like making his own breakfast, using a microwave or even closing a window. I used to think it was because he has ADHD that he doesn't know how to do basic stuff and I was made to do everything for him as a kid.

But after him having friends over and seeing their behavior... It's not just my brother, these kids are genuinely slow sometimes.

The conclusion I ended up with was that being raised by phones, tablets and computers instead of parents drove these kids away from the real world. So now they look like versions of Mr Bean, or like aliens that have never been on Earth (yes genuinely like that, it's not even an exaggeration these 11-12 year olds struggled to pour themselves a glass of water)

Now I've seen some millennials trying to pretend this is just the general trend of older generations hating on the younger ones... But it's not just that, when I was my brother's age I was able to take care of a toddler, an animal and the house chores, these kids can't even fix themselves a basic snack without making a mess.

It's so sad that their parents have destroyed their social and basic skills like that.

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[-] choihanna@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 month ago

Well I'm being harsh to my brother because I've been the one doing everything for him since I was younger than he is right now. So seeing these kids being unable to do basic tasks for themselves is a bit frustrating.

[-] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

For sure. and it shouldn't all be on you. Parents making kids raise their kids is shitty. Mine did it to me too because they were also deadbeats.

But that's not really your little brothers fault. You're punishing him for something he can't control or consent to.

Don't let me tell you your business, you both have whole lives ahead of you that might be just fine even if you go you went no contact when you get older. But there's also an opportunity there for both of your lives to suck less, which is the desire underlying your post no?

[-] choihanna@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 month ago

No I'm already an adult, I still love my parents even if they were bad parents they're still good people.

This post was only because I saw my brother's friends be the same as him which shocked me, either I was Einstein as a kid or kids nowadays are dumber.

[-] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 month ago

Yeah they dumber. But that's kind of on everyone else, not their fault

this post was submitted on 13 Apr 2026
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