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No you're on to something. I think you might be a little harsh on your brother due to proximity, but millenials were raised by xers and we inherited lots of the same deficiencies we're giving to you.
The biggest one being that creating functional adults is an active and collaborative effort. There's a point in children's lives where we're really eager to go "well they're fucked" and just stop working on that collaborative effort because its no longer as salient of a narrative to us as a kid developing into a screwup.
If you want to see people be better, you can be a positive presence in someone's life right now by simply giving what you can in time and patience to another person's growth. It doesn't immediately pay off, and it usually doesn't pay you, but little acts over a lifetime heal the negligence that was passed down to you.
Well I'm being harsh to my brother because I've been the one doing everything for him since I was younger than he is right now. So seeing these kids being unable to do basic tasks for themselves is a bit frustrating.
For sure. and it shouldn't all be on you. Parents making kids raise their kids is shitty. Mine did it to me too because they were also deadbeats.
But that's not really your little brothers fault. You're punishing him for something he can't control or consent to.
Don't let me tell you your business, you both have whole lives ahead of you that might be just fine even if you go you went no contact when you get older. But there's also an opportunity there for both of your lives to suck less, which is the desire underlying your post no?
No I'm already an adult, I still love my parents even if they were bad parents they're still good people.
This post was only because I saw my brother's friends be the same as him which shocked me, either I was Einstein as a kid or kids nowadays are dumber.
Yeah they dumber. But that's kind of on everyone else, not their fault