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Why do you think your parents took a different approach with your brother?
I am not trying to pacify you, I like your resistance but I will say i dont subscribe to generational wars and, applying an observation to a blanket audience does not mean its true. I am just trying to play devils advocate.
Because I was the first child, the first child always has more responsibility. It's also a complicated family dynamic, I'm trans and came out very young so my parents approach was to raise me as they would raise a woman which means taking care of the younger siblings and taking care of the house, things my older brother didn't have to do for example (my older brother is from a different marriage of my dad, we're half siblings)
I agree being the eldest and hierarchy of female does come with baggage. Again second families and all comes with different results.
I will they are the first mainstream gen to raise children who do not identify with their birth, and there was no guide to that, they were likely learning about this as you were whilst also fielding off their parents questions and thoughts.
The biggest thing here is your peace and your relationships with others, inc your brother. I kind of think blaming generational stereotypes will just hinder you. You have a right to be angry and fight what you think is unfair...Just be clear on what that is and how it will help you....but ideally without hurting others too.