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So. I was often told that negative emotions are from the devil or because of my sins, so naturally if I wanted to be a good Christian, I was happy. right? I am happy? Yes definitely. I am not a sinner, so I must be. (Supported by that chart in the article)
Surveying people on emotions is very weak evidence.
Once asked a patient if she was anxious because she was pacing rapidly in a circle in her room and she was like "oh no I'm just caught up in my memories" then described in vivid detail the time she was working the streets and a van pulled up and several men jumped out yanked her friend (another hooker) inside the van as she struggled and screamed, then drove off and she never saw that girl again. I asked if the "memories" were keeping her from sleeping and she was like "oh yeah I'm up at night with the memories a lot." My girl's in there having night terrors / PTSD flashbacks all night every night and "no I'm not anxious." I gave her Ativan. The indication in the doctor's order was for agitation (aka severe anxiety / panic), and I documented my objective observations (pacing) and a short version of what she said (reliving my friend getting kidnapped), but I told her it was to help her sleep (which it was, in a way).
There's also a lot of people who don't know how to be scared safely. When their startle reflex gets activated they just have no mental model for processing it other than anger. Just "oop a lil adrenaline! Who do I fight about that?" And they just go after the first person they see.
TLDR what people call various emotions can vary wildly not even just by mental health literacy but also even just by culture. It's not uncommon to see people objectively panicking but denying that they have any emotions at all.
(⋟﹏⋞✿) ᶜᵒᵘˡᵈ ʸᵒᵘ ᵐᵃʸᵇᵉ ᵃᵈᵈ ᶜᵒⁿᵗᵉⁿᵗ ʷᵃʳⁿⁱⁿᵍ ⁿᵉˣᵗ ᵗⁱᵐᵉ ʷʰᵉⁿ ʷʳⁱᵗⁱⁿᵍ ᵃᵇᵒᵘᵗ ᵛⁱᵒˡᵉⁿᶜᵉ ᵖˡᵉᵃˢᵉ?
tbh just block me. I've been working in such high acuity situations for so long that it's basically impossible for me to tell what other people find disturbing. I've casually said things about bodily fluids and functions around people who claim to have a "dark sense of humor" and watched them turn green without even realizing it's something that would bother anyone. It also usually turns out they're just racist / sexist etc and are saying that out of a desire to make jokes that keep them within their limited worldview, not that they're actually expressing anything reflective of an experiental exposure to human depravity.
as a specific example of something I know disturbed someone as an accident on my part:
I was once playing VtM with people who were like "oh yeah a real dark gritty game!" and my vampire character ate a bag of chips early in and the GM said "well you're just going to throw it back up" and my response was "well I can just keep re-eating the vomit thought right?" (because I once personally watched someone doing that) .....you could hear a pin drop in that chat (until the person who also works in my field started giggling).My apologies for this occurence; I thought I had marked this account as NSFW / 18+ but I'm not seeing where that might have even been an option, so maybe I'm thinking of a different account on a different service. If you're not able to interact safely with this you're just not able to interact safely with me in general. Best wishes though!