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Anon asks out a girl (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 9 months ago by [M] to c/greentext@sh.itjust.works
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[–] -2 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Sure, but personally, I don't give a fuck about that. I don't find conventionally attractive people, good looking. They don't do it for me. And If I, just one person feels this way, and I've met other's like this too, there must be more.

Just tryin to put that beacon of hope out.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago (1 child)

    Sure. But I think it is better to set realistic expectations. After all, it you don't expect much, then you won't feel so bad when it doesn't manifest. With false hope, you are crushed each time your hopes don't meet reality. In the long run, realistic expectations serve us better because we can see how our efforts lead us to the results we desire.

    This isn't to say that conventionally unattractive people should give up all hope and dispair. It just means they should temper their expectations relative to their more attractive counterparts, and should focus on things which are within their circle of control, like fitness, grooming, style, lifestyle, mindset, and number of people talked to.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago*

    Both those things, saving hope, while going into things with no expectations or "realistic" expectations are both very compatible.

    You can have realistic hope. It's exactly as you describe in your second paragraph. Good stuff.

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