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Both of these removals are tacit endorsement of ableism and racism and this mod should be removed.
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Also here is the head mod defending a transphobe/chaser https://hexbear.net/comment/3762972
I get that. I think it's always a bit unrealistic, when it comes to the building blocks of attraction, which I think are more often than not initially superficial. I appreciate your answering my question.
I'd describe it by explaining that it's unhealthy to have a partner that doesn't like who you want to be. A pre-op trans man is a man. Treating them like a woman during sex would likely make them feel dysphoric. Having a partner that they know wouldn't be attracted to them if they actually transitioned would just suck. If you identify as a straight man, it would be invalidating of the trans man's identity to fuck them anyways because you see them as a hot woman.
On the "chubby chaser" bit, think of it like this. I love fat girls, tummy soft 🥺 however, my girlfriend could lose weight if she wanted to. If she would feel more confident with 100 less pounds, that's okay because it's her body and I want her to be happy with her own appearance. If I got with a fat girl who wanted to lose weight and I made her feel bad about it because "then you won't be hot anymore" that would be kinda shitty right?
Yes, on the grounds that it would be shitty to intentionally make someone feel bad. However, if after the woman lost weight you felt less physical attraction to her, I would understand. And then it'd be up to you to conclude at that point the importance to you, and if it's fair to either of you to continue the relationship. Surely there'd be some moral debate if ending a relationship on those grounds is "right", but that's really not for anyone else to decide.
Well I'm not saying leaving someone for preferences is bad. It happens. But to enter into a relationship knowing that your preferences wouldn't work with your partner, that's shitty.
How can you always know? People are complex.
This becomes ultra-clear when it comes to transgender people who are transitioning in any way. Changes are happening. If you would object to those changes, which you have no right to, entering this relationship is wrong. Someone who does so is likely to use abusive tactics (manipulation, persuasion, leverage) in order to get their way and choose aspects of your transition (even medical, surgical) for you.
I would agree with you if relationships (or even sex) were initiated entirely on prurient grounds, but they're not
Fair point. I think that's subjective and likely varies individual to individual. But in that light, I can't argue with you.