im 157cm (5′2)
26yo male
i have been in a realationship for 3years
and i did had success somewhat with girls. tho sometime I feel like i need to work very hard, harder than my tall friends.
if im not on my top shape and lean i feel like im not enough, and given less chances with girls.
im pretty muscular, and have an ok face, i also pretty nice to talk to and tbh i never had a first date which the girl didnt want to go to a second date with me. but the height a lot of times made some girls not even consider me, and tbh 157 cm is like shorter than 99% of guys.
im thinking about doing it to get to 5′6 tho i also dont wanna be the guy who is known for doing limb lengthning surgery cause its like an insecure thing.
im pretty lost tbh. need some outsiders perspective ty
Don't know that this is really a dating question overall, so be aware that you might end up with skewed perspectives.
That being said, it's a lot of risk, a lot of pain, and a very long process that's going to interfere with every part of your life. There's multiple long term risks on top of the short term ones.
I'm not saying you shouldn't do it. That's ultimately a highly internal decision. What I'm saying is that before you decide, you need to really dig deep into the possible outcomes, good and bad.
You'll also have to find doctors willing to perform the procedures in the first place. Even for people with dwarfism, not all doctors are willing to take on the risk. You might even have to move to get it done. For someone without an underlying condition, it's going to be harder to find someone willing. And it's definitely going to be out of pocket, dwarfs have trouble getting it covered even when you can point to a medical necessity like equalizing leg length as part of the benefits.
Which, you gotta save up ahead of time usually, they don't work on credit.
At 26, you'll likely be in your thirties by the time you can realistically complete everything involved.
It won't be something that you can just switch off in the middle and go back to normal life either. Yeah, they can stop the lengthening, but you'll still have all the recovery and pain to go through. Makes needing to be fully committed a higher priority than something cosmetic.
And it will likely come with benefits. You won't actually see much of that in dating, but you'll have an easier time moving through the world physically (assuming all goes right, because of it goes wrong you'll be worse off in that regard). I was stuck in a chair briefly at one point, and the height issues are not easy to deal with. I had never really thought about it before, but once your head is under about 5'6", even with the longer arms of being taller otherwise, shit gets difficult. Easier clothes shopping with more options. Better vehicle choices. Dating is where you'd see the least improvement, if you saw any at all there.
Other social issues though, you'll get treated differently. Not always better, but different.
Me? I've seen what all goes on with it. One of my patients back in the day had achondroplasia and opted for the lengthening, both arms and legs eventually. I was only there for the leg lengthening. No fucking way would I go through that for a few inches. That guy was also having surgeries to correct other things, so it wasn't any worse in terms of hassles, but hell to the no just for height.
Anyone wanting it, you have my full support, but no way in hell would I go through it.