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this post was submitted on 26 May 2025
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What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
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2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
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I get this a lot, too. I've been known to say "fuck" really loud at whatever set me off, and sometimes I have to take some aggression out on my pillow or slam my fists into the mattress if I'm really distressed. If it's a person or someone is around to witness it I just apologize and say I'm angry/frustrated but not with them and that I need a minute to regulate/ step away, then I kinda dissociate while my emotions untangle themselves. Sometimes that ends up as empty crying in a dark room, or laying down on the floor actively breathing for a few minutes. Then I somehow get up and keep going about things on autopilot... I think life obligations act like bumper rails that push me along even when I think I can't go on. Pet needs to be cared for, food needs to be made, something will always need my attention, so I guess I switch gears to move away from the Thing until I can deal with it again. Giving yourself just a few moments to feel everything might make a difference. Idk if any of this is helpful, but you're not alone in the struggle and I'm sorry things are so difficult. If you're able, just make sure to give yourself space and maybe a little grace as you work through these moments. I think the term for this is pacing, but for the ND side of things. If you're comfortable with touch in these moments, a really tight hug usually breaks the anger and takes some of the weight off, at least for me. Hope you can find some relief.
Thank you. Big hugs are really soothing and I think would really help. When it comes to the random loud swearing, though, its so tough cuz its automatic, I swear all the time, my partner does too, its just like when you bump your head and say "ow!" reflexively, its like that lol.
I would probably wither away if I still had to work right now, but youre right that the obligations can help. I worked in social services and I would struggle all day, but then being in helper/customer service mode would totally distract me cuz I loved my clients.