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This might cause a struggle but: Calling people prudes for not wanting to sexualise themselves is bad (hexbear.net)

submitted 2 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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"We need to sex up your wardrobe. What do you mean you're not comfortable wearing that? Oh honey, don't be such a prude, all the girls are doing it and you want to be successful don't you? No one's going to watch someone that dresses like their grandma."

I get sick and tired of so called leftists equating exploitation to sexual liberation.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

choking. breath play is really fucking dangerous and requires clear consent, but since it's normalized in porn (where consent can HOPEFULLY be discussed off camera), it becomes normalized in vanilla, where consent rules are NOT really heavily used.

Holy fuck. I used to be heavily into kink and into some kinda extremely play, but like what happened to RACK? You can straight up die when breathplay is involved.

The risk is small, but you need clear consent and a plan for what if heart attack etc. Holy shit we used to be dorks swapping lists of what we were into or willing to consider before ever doing a scene. Has the culture gotten that fucked?

One time someone slapped me without discussing it prior and I had to give that mfer a lecture about cranial and spinal anatomy, consent, and the importance of bracing the skull. I thought that was an extreme mistake.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 days ago (1 children)

RACK = Risk-aware consensual kink, for my fellow squares

[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 days ago

Ah yes sorry, I hate it when people include weird acroynms without defining them. I cannot live up to mine own ideals.

To explain to the peanut gallery, a movement in kink culture that views kink not as an activity which has to, or can be, 100% safe. Instead it focuses on clear scoping out of risks, strategies for mitigation and clear consent by parties aware of them.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago (1 children)

In my experience, at least in my local area, the actual kinksters shy away from choking quite a bit, it's the more vanilla-leaning people who choke a lot.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Casuals ruining shit for everyone smh my head.

Medical people are the best play partners. All the anatomical knowledge to be safeish and insane with the unphased affect of someone who has rearranged some organs.