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A couple IRL trans people I know are convinced that I'm trans and it's adorable (hexbear.net)

submitted 4 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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God if this happened 15 years ago I'd be super upset and defensive. I try to apply the Hexbear Code of Conduct in the real world, so I'm probably above average for cis men for being decent to trans people (but still there's a lot of space to grow!). I've always failed miserably at being a normal cis guy, I'm shit at sports, I don't do tough guy attitude well, and I'm pretty kind and emotional. I've also taken advantage of the recent explosion of gender fluidity recently to update my style a bit: there are more pinks and pastel colours in my wardrobe than their used to be.

I forgot to mention, my voice has a bit of a "gay twang", as friends have told me. Thankfully it's never bothered me, but I get asked if I'm gay a lot.

So maybe it's partly my fault, but a couple of the younger trans people in my life are convinced that I'm a trans woman. I think it's sweet, they've let me into their secret club. They often reassure me that I'm a woman if I want and that's OK.

My only real fear is that I'll waste their time or their good intentions. They seem really motivated to help me socially transition, but I can't see going anywhere past a cis dude that sometimes wears cute shirts.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Big trans-egg energy and I'm here for it.

I know I never want to be a woman but I also have known for years that being a man is dumb. For many younger years I told people that I am what masculinity/maleness is, not what society thinks masculinity/maleness is. Those other men are wrong fuck them, basically. These days I don't care about what gender folks prescribe to me. I don't really have a gender I feel like for myself I'm just me and however I'm seen is how I'm seen. A lot of that comes from a place of privilege but also it just comes from I don't care about my own gender. It's whatever. I'm gonna do whatever I wanna do and wear what I want and hang out with who I want and whatever gender someone thinks I am doesn't impact this.

So it's okay for you to just be like whatever. You can be a woman or a man or something in between or something else entirely or nothing at all. It's up to you. And you can change your mind any time you want and as often as you want. Gender is cool like that. The fact that you're cool and comfy with how you're being perceived is enough and someday if you feel differently you've got options and you've clearly already got a cool community who is there to help you figure it out.

The Gender Journey is cool wherever we end up.