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Joe Exotic posts on instagram that his husband was deported by ICE after years of shilling for Donald Trump.

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Nah fuck that. The idea that the state needs to validate people's relationships is absurd.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (2 children)

People can do whatever they want with their relationships, but if they want a union recognized by the government and the advantages conferred by that, then yes the state can regulate that

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Exotic didn't say a single word about legal advantages.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

No, but he used terminology that implied a legally sanctioned contract. That’s potentially misleading/wrong. It’s lying. But it doesn’t mean anything specific about the state of whatever relationship he may have

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Talking about marriage doesn't imply anything about the law, because marriage isn't a legal construct. It's in your heart.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

I have a commitment to drive my kid home from college for a weekend with his friends. It’s a personal commitment that I take seriously. It’s in my heart….. but I’m not calling it a contract

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

I 100% agree with this.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Marriage has nothing to do with relationships or love. Never has and never will. Marriage is a contract, whether the terms of that contract is who has power of attorney by default or a mutual defense pact against the Ottoman Empire is up to the betrothed.

Let me provide an example of why this has to be in place: One cannot be compelled to testify against a spouse in court. That protection doesn't extend to boyfriends, fucktoys or high-speed-low-passes. To prevent that system from being abused, you're going to need to have a registry somewhere otherwise every court case is going to be "the prosecution can't call any witnesses because everyone in the English speaking world is my spouse."

Boyfriend, partner, dicksheath, cumdumpster, codpiece, anklegrabber, better half or significant other, these terms have no legal meaning and thus are perfectly free to use. "Husband" "Wife" and "Spouse" mean "we are parties of a certain standardized, legally binding contract."

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Ain't nobody should have to snitch to the cops about nothing if they don't want to. Shouldn't require marriage at all.

Also, if marriage isn't about love, then how come you can't marry your sister? I'm not advocating for sister marriage, I'm just pointing out it definitely is about love, and that's why marrying your sister is weird.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I think what they were saying is that “marriage” is a legally defined union between two people. A 12 year old child bride will be married - but I wouldn’t have thought love comes into that kind of horrific union.

There’s plenty of people who are not married but are in love with their partner and there are plenty of married couples where the love died long ago; if it even ever existed.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Well that's wrong. Spouses should love each other. The law shouldn't keep them together if they don't. Abolish legal marriage.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

Yeah - a loveless marriage is possibly the saddest place you could ever be. Don’t do it to yourself. (which, admittedly, you seem unlikely to.)

Whilst, yes, abolishing marriage might be a good idea there are certain legal and tax advantages to being married (in some jurisdictions). These would need to be worked out to apply equally to all couples (thrupples, polygamous communes, multi-wife faiths etc.) but wouldn’t be impossible.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

This reminds me of how "civil marriages" started happening in France: https://youtu.be/xD7MJcxQzKU?t=973 https://youtu.be/xD7MJcxQzKU?t=718