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[–] [email protected] 75 points 2 days ago (6 children)
  • Presses reply
  • Types an insightful comment
  • Looks at it. There’s something wrong with it. He just doesn’t know what.
  • Erases it. Starts over.
  • *Still doesn’t feel right *
  • Hits cancel, discards the comment, and goes back to doom scrolling.
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

I figure that there are plenty of other people that can tell me what's wrong with my comment, so just post it and let others work for you for free.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago (1 children)

How often did you contemplate posting this comment?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

I can tell with the editing lol

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago

I worry the same way, but mostly just when I'm commenting on something hurtful. Like if a commenter is being agonizingly wrong about something really important, spreading lies, you know the kind. I'll get worked up and start writing a comment, but realize that any point I make can be nitpicked and invalidated even if it's broadly correct. So I don't post those comments.

But when it's not in response to someone being inflammatory, I feel better about just doing my best with what I write. If someone has a correction, well that's a good thing! I'll acknowledge it and edit my comment to include the better info I'm given. I can hope that the people reading it don't see that I was wrong on one point and decide I'm completely wrong because I try to interact respectfully.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

>writes three paragraph comment

>edits comment for 10 minutes to make it as succinct as possible

>realizes it has nothing to do with parent comment

>deletes comment

Back on reddit, a good half of the comments I would have left got deleted as soon as I posted them. Lemmy has forced me to make sure I've said something relevant, because if I leave a comment and then delete it, everyone gets to know that I did that, and that makes me feel even worse than saying something slightly off topic

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

I mean, if it is not related to a specific "parent comment", you could simply post it as a 1st rank comment to the post instead?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

Same, but I cannot even get to the reply phase. Also I am bad at commenting/posting anything good.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago

I felt this in my bones.