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Is the cure to toxic masculinity... Positive masculinity? Rule (slrpnk.net)

submitted 2 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Not my note.

It's so easy to rip people down. Pump someone's tires. It means way more than you can imagine.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I think it was more that a dad wanted to compliment another dad, as someone who might relate to him easier.

It even says that in the note.

[–] [email protected] -3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

That would make sense if the mom wasn't also there parenting, trying to make some good memories with her family. Instead, creepy note guy ignores her entirely, which is very inline with what I'm talking about, unfortunately. Moms will and do get straight ignored while heaps of praise is lavished on dads just for being there with the kids. It's a pretty common experience, and I would feel pretty annoyed if I were the mom and I found that note before husband did.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago (1 children)

'I'm married.'

'I have a boyfriend.'

'I don't need your help.'

I understand why they react this way, but I have to admit, I don't compliment women very often anymore. At least the guys don't need to assume I have some other motive in order to feel safe.