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…and yours isn’t? [for the sake of argument i assume that you aren’t a gymnast or esteemed individual in the field either] the meaning of my praise is probably an insignificant drop in the bucket to most gold medalists. the fact that you operate under a different model of value relationships doesn’t make your praise any more significant than mine.

Expressions of praise, under ordinary circumstances, are meant as value-judgements. You can say your opinion or mine doesn't matter, but it is still an expression of value - when you praise someone's singing, you are necessarily at the very least comparing them to the bottom-of-the-barrel with a relative positive judgement. If I say "Good singing, Tom!" and what I mean is "But no better than anyone else's", that's not praise of any real sort, and if Tom had any clue that I meant that, it would be a hit to him probably much harder than if I explicitly denigrated his singing. On the other hand, if I say "Good singing, Tom!" and what I mean is "Your singing was better than at least some others", that is a value judgement that, if Tom understands correctly, will likely please him (at least, dependent on how many 'others' I am suggesting he is above-average by) - but is also necessarily a denigration of less-talented singers in the realm of singing relative to him.

the athlete, as the recipient of praise, is the sole determinant of the relevance or emptiness of that valuation.

And all the other people who are implicitly judged by your praise? They have no relevance? That seems rather contrary to the argument you apply to voiced denigrations.

it would be woefully self-absorbed of me to claim i created the value of my congratulations.

You express the valuation you feel. That's the purpose of praise and denigration. Or, at least, the purpose that is received; obviously dishonest expressions of valuation are possible to inflate or deflate others, or to burnish a particular reputation.