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Wow, think of the example he’s setting. If his kids were in that marriage, would he recommend waiting for 1/5 of their life to go by with a horrible person? How will his kids even know how to have a loving relationship if his parents are that fucked up?

He’s a coward who cares more about money than about being a good person or dad.

Sounds more like he's a realist who knows how this will go. Kentucky requires the court in contested custody cases start from a presumption that equal custody is best unless there's a good reason not to and a preponderance of the evidence for that reason. A few other states require the court to at least consider the possibility, but the rest leave contested custody cases entirely up to the judges preferences and biases. The result is that the court tends to be biased against men because "a child needs it's mother" or some similar BS. Couple that with a lot of these cases involving Mom staying in the home and Dad having to find somewhere else to live, and suddenly it's in "the best interest of the child" for Dad to see them every other weekend, at most.

And that’s most men in these relationships. Men would rather cheat and lie than be honest and extend basic respect and communication to their partners. And then get upset when women finally initiate divorce for the broken shitty relationship.

They'd rather be in their children's lives and able to at least try to take care of them than risk losing them altogether while paying their mother for the privilege of being her former victim and just kind of hoping she'll use at least some of that for the kids. And I'm not even going to start on the fundamental "man = bad" presumption here.