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What is Neurodivergence?

It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc

“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”

So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned


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1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them

2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence

2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals

3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.

3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith

4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!

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I would LOVE to be able to branch out, but as much as I’ve tried in my almost 30 years, it always ends as nothing but a wet fart. Most of the people who I do vibe with (and who tolerate me) exist in the form of potential romantic interests and it just doesn’t work out. I can’t find that “line” of platonicness and romance. From that perspective then, I guess it makes sense why my friendships/commections ceased formation in my adolescence. Doesn’t make it suck any less though lolololol

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

compromising your work experience by getting too interpersonal is a real concern.

What kind of job do you have? Something where people are all backstabbing career-climbers?

All the jobs I've worked have been low-wage, where making friends with your coworkers means someone at work will have your back, at least in small ways.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

All the jobs I've worked have been low-wage, where making friends with your coworkers means someone at work will have your back, at least in small ways.

Every low wage job I've worked at has been the same as well. One job I worked along side the department managers son, and we bonded over our mutual disdain for his dad haha.

What kind of job do you have? Something where people are all backstabbing career-climbers?

I've been in situations where someone who presents themselves one way at work, reveal themselves to be a totally different way out of work once they were comfortable.

I don't really want to get into a long winded story. Simple to say, in this one situation, the working and personal relationship was over, but while I might have been done with our "working relationship", our employer obviously was not. So I had to grit my teeth and "be civil" to a real chameleon of a human, knowing full well the depths of their narcissism and ignorant vulgarness.

Since their offense happened off hours and off work property, and "broke no laws", there was little my superior could or would do to address the situation. I was told he had a "conversation" with them, but little else. I thought about changing jobs, but they eventually moved on to "greener" pastures. This was many many years ago. I distanced myself from the "after hours" activities, and those eventually died off. I think my experience (which was no secret) poisoned that well.

Had this been a relationship formed outside work, I would have cut them loose and been done with it. It wasn't so simple unfortunately, thanks in part to the nature and relations of "work".