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well, I've learned the hard way that ~~sometimes~~ often people who are offering to help are hoping to get a little something in return. sometimes it's just the good feeling of helping, sometimes it's just your friendship, but sometimes ... ๐
what does he want from you? how certain can you be that whatever answer(s) he gives are accurate and complete?
it can be a risky situation to put all your eggs into someone else's cushy basket. do you have any local-enough sober/in-recovery friends you could crash with if it turns out he's looking for sexual favors or a virtual slave?
I have 3 bands that want to sign with them. 2 of the 3 bands agreed with me to not sign with them if I don't get hired. (They're amazing leftist comrades.) But considering I can't even leave my room without being yelled at, any improvement is a plus. I know he isn't using me for sexual favors, it's been done before to me and isn't triggering any warning signs, I think this person just genuinely sees my talent as a music nerd as an asset, and st worse is still offering a job that can pay for a legit house.
it sounds like you've got good instincts and a support system in case things go south at all, in which case, I'm wondering why you're hesitating?!?! this sounds fuckin amazing
Because I'm a victim of extreme abuse and any help is scary to me lmao
๐ oh. that makes perfect sense. I'm sorry.
you deserve help and support just as much as anyone else, and I hope you can find a way to feel safe enough to accept it