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  • Going to work
  • Paying off loans
  • Finishing a project
  • Mastering a hobby

It's all just...never-ending. I can't do it all...or really any of it. The rest of my life looks like a never-ending stagnant grind right now. I've really tried to finish anything, but when the timeline is years?! How do I even do this when I've only got like...50 years left? And MOST of that time is grinding a job?

"Start now" I hear you all say. I've done that. Everything is indefinitely unfinished. I don't have the time to commit to it, for another hobby or interest is more engaging.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

It definitely ends. I’m on the other side of that curve and every year goes by faster than the last.

Going to work…. Yeah, gotta eat. Paying off loans… yeah that’s how it goes, but one day they WILL be paid Finishing a project…. Only if you want to, otherwise pick a new one. Mastering a hobby…. Maybe just set the goal of enjoying the hobby? Take the pressure off yourself. It’s meant to be fun!

Do what you want to be happy. If you’re not happy, find something new to try!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

They will take way too long to be paid. I'll be in my late 40s before some of them are done. They are also taking half my paycheck each month.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

I understand being in that pit, I was there in my 20's and early 30's as well; deep, deep in debt with credit cards and student loans. But I was able to get out of debt in my late 30's, and then in my 40's things just started snowballing. I'm almost 50 and in really good shape financially now, but if you'd asked me in my 20's I would have sounded just like you. It takes a while to get going if you're not lucky enough to have a headstart from wealthy parents or something. I grew up poor as fuck so I know exactly what it's like to have not just nothing, but be net negative. Just don't give up or feel hopeless because as your career progresses it gets easier and easier.

And make sure you do find things that make you happy while you're plugging away at your obligations. That's really important.