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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

The amount of passive aggression I expressed in my teens like this was too damn high. I've kept my Facebook but haven't posted in years and have been systematically hiding posts as they pop up in my memories page.

I'm still working on it, but y'all, I suggest if you struggle like I do with people pleasing, take a day or two to consider if it is worth directly bringing up to someone. Sometimes that silence or passive aggression becomes enabling. We can't expect people to care about hurting our feelings if we don't learn to express that hurt in healthy ways

Note: this only applies for those that can accept healthy communication of hurt feelings and adjust their behavior. If you communicate directly that you were hurt and the person doesn't care, fuck em