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Why can't anyone hear me?
(lemmygrad.ml)
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Yeah, happens to everyone from time to time. More likely to happen the bigger the group, because they think 'ah, someone else will answer that'... Then nobody does, and then it becomes awkward to reply. A good person replies no matter the awkwardness, but a lot of people have very tight and egoistic senses of self.
It also is more likely to happen if it's a tough question/a question that will require actioning. It's one of those annoying phenomenons. No one blanks a personal 'hows it going!' - lots of people blank a group directed 'can someone check the stock room for a stapler?'
It also could've just been coincidence. Everyone was thinking about something else in their heads.
a sort of conversational bystander effect? 🤔 wonder if the same remedy – picking a person to directly address instead of addressing the group – would work, or would it be too awkward for use with people you see repeatedly? (or maybe even seem confrontational or imperious?)
@[email protected] this happens to me too occasionally, and it does feel terrible
sorry that we have this in common!
I'd say yeah, just be that person. If someone won't listen, sometimes you have to make them listen. Nothing wrong with that.