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[–] [email protected] 28 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (7 children)

It such a surreal moment whenever it comes up whenever I try to reach for my pre voice training mode of speech.(usually as a cute party trick with queer folk)

this last weekend at a queer gathering, I was completely unable to have a sound concept for what I used to sound like pre voice training, and the best I could conjure was basically a woman who smokes cigarettes kind of voice.

Feels like a really good place to be. Voice training was an incredible thing for my inner sense of self and healing.

The further I get along, and I certainly have such a long way to go, the more I feel like whoever I was pre transition integrates into a better sense of self. For the queer joy, just want to emphasize that there are so many fucking challenges that go into transitioning, but it is still the best decision I have made in my life. transshork-happy

[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Sometimes I try to do a manly voice and I just sound like a kid pretending to be her dad on the phone.

Or a biotech entrepreneur being questioned in court.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago

like a kid pretending to be her dad on the phone

lol this is a good way to put it

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago (2 children)

That's awesome! I'm very happy for you.

I would like to start training my voice more. The thing is I've always been decent at modulating my voice in general and can do a semi-decent feminine voice as it is, but it's so hard for me to stick to that. My natural voice is already rather low and masculine and I find myself just reverting to it subconsciously unless I'm constantly thinking about shifting it as I speak. But I guess that's what the whole "training" part is for lol.

I remember a couple months ago I went on a first date with a woman and beforehand I convinced myself I was going to try out my feminine voice for the date. She knew I was trans and all. So, it's not like I was trying to hide that. Just thought it would be a fun experiment as we hadn't actually talked prior, just texted. I immediately subconsciously reverted to my normal voice upon meeting her. So that experiment failed. Though it might have been a hard ruse to keep up with anyway had we went on any dates afterwards, which we unfortunately did not--though we had plans to, our schedules just never aligned properly and things fizzled out.

Anyway, happy for you and you've provided me inspiration to make a more concerted effort to train my voice too :)

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago

It takes a long time for it to become habit. For real. It was really reassuring for me when I met a transfem who helps trans folks voice train, and she really emphasized that this is a long term habit of something so personal as our voice, and that really takes time to develop into a place where we want it. Be patient, I bet you’re fucking killing it, honestly.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

I immediately subconsciously reverted to my normal voice upon meeting her.

You could have always switched later. :P Like, no one I work with ever says anything despite me shifting between accidentally doing old voice (typically if really tired and/or congested), basically the voice I'm trying to do for now (idk what I want long-term, so relatively minimal changes from old voice), and accidentally switching to a customer-service-esque voice (which for some reason is really high pitched). I did once have a child to laugh at the contrast of me suddenly doing customer-service-voice with the very deep voice of the person I was responding too. And its not like I'm out at work.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

It's fairly common to not be able to go back to original voice, it feels like you are over exaggerating when you attempt it lol it's funny trying

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago (1 children)

people really focus on how difficult and depressing voice training is (and it is), but the euphoric moments that come from it are so good. I'm glad you're in a good place with it transshork-happy

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago (1 children)

It was difficult, especially on those gloomy dysphoric days. I found the best practice for me was to just belt along to sad girl fm in my car and match the vocalist anya-heh

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I found the best practice for me was to just belt along to sad girl fm in my car and match the vocalist

Glad that worked for you cause that's basically the only thing I could even potentially call my voice training. But I just sing along to everyone. Duets with fairly different voices are fun trying to go back and forth between voices in real time. So... can't imagine that helps with getting any sort of consistency in a voice, but I guess knowing how to intentionally sound a certain way may help with avoiding sounding that way if you want to?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

Honestly, mirroring is how we learn to speak at early stages of development, and essential to any method of teaching. In my experience, it is the consistency is most important to learning any new behavior, habit or skill. And little things like singing in the car add up!

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I feel like I mainly want to alter the tone of my voice tbh (or whatever the term is)

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago

I hear ya(if not literally) it takes a long time to develop a voice concept you like, and then i’m still extricating my brainworms on difficult days about how far my voice has come.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

That sounds amazing! Can't wait to get there.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago

You are going to do so fucking good, I know it!