I don't consider myself a woman, so I generally avoid women's spaces. But I do like when I feel like I'm at least not seen as a threat.

That's understandable. I'm definitely still on the fence in the whole, "do I consider myself a woman or not?" aspect. There's parts of dysphoria I don't feel I relate to but other aspects of my life that at the least I identify much more strongly with womanhood than manhood. I mean, I remember frequently imagining as early as about age 6 a machine that could turn boys into girls. This idea was always very exciting to me at a time already when I had pretty much no concept of sexuality and little concept of gender beyond what I knew was "expected" of me, which I intrinsically felt disdain towards.

I guess that in itself is a pretty good indicator that I definitely feel more comfortable with the idea of being seen as a woman. But at the same time don't really have much in terms of body dysphoria. I have more seriously considered taking hormones lately, which I shrugged off for a long time as unnecessary for me personally. But there are certain aspects that do appeal to me like addressing or at least halting MPB which does cause me some amount of dysphoria (though it could be far worse at this stage in my life based on my father's experience), and also being able to more reconnect with a more emotional and sensitive side of myself that I feel I was very attune with growing up but had conditioned and bullied out of me over time. But the other physical aspects aren't as much of a latent desire of mine, though not unwelcome in allowing me to be viewed by others as more outwardly feminine.

All this being said, I do generally avoid women's spaces if I'm not explicitly invited into those spaces for the fear always of making others uncomfortable. But I do feel affirmed when I am invited into those spaces. I have a cis female friend who recently started doing "girl's nights" and has made it a point to invite me every time. She herself is queer and it's overwhelmingly queer space. So that helps in itself, but it also feels nice to be included and not feeling unwelcome in any way.

I've also been regularly attending recovery meetings for a drinking problem & a couple months ago one of the women who attends the meetings asked me if I identified as a woman which even though I said at the time I considered myself non-binary, she still invited me to the young women's meeting they had just started. Which felt affirming as well as I typically find myself "boymoding" moreso at the general meetings, though I'm pretty obviously queer coded to most people as I barely even own an article of "men's" clothing at this point and boymode is just me wearing my less overtly femme women's clothing pieces, but it still felt nice to be recognized by someone as "not male" even when I wasn't presenting overly femme. Going to those meetings has provided me a place where I feel more comfortable with presenting more outwardly femme which is always nice, and though everyone has been very nice to me there, I still have that nagging feeling of "Am I truly welcome?" at times seeing as it's less of queer space. Though one of the regular members brings up her girlfriend pretty often. So, that makes me feel good that there's at least one other queer person in there. Again, I probably wouldn't have attended on my own though had I not been specifically invited as I would have felt I was intruding otherwise.