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I Suck at Building conversations (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 2 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Just as the Title says, i really suck at buuilding conversation, i've had a crush on this girl for 2 years now and i was talking with her (5 minutes ago, she's also a communist and is awesome) and i literally ran away after 5 minutes because i've felt like i've had nothing better to say. Fuck my life, did make her agree to watch Doctor Who and One Piece together though ( Not a date, just really want to be friends with her and not ruin this friendship at all). Anyway, what am i supposed to do to get better at holding conversations though ??

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I mean, if she ends up hanging out to watch shows with you it sounds like you did a great job! Doesn't take away the internal anxiety of social interaction, though, I feel you as I struggle with that myself. I think it can be helpful to ask questions about the other person, people love talking about themselves lol. Ask about what they've been reading/watching, how was their weekend, ask exploratory follow up questions, etc. If she's a communist, maybe she is super passionate about it and that can be a conversation starter. I really like to talk politics and social justice with people, but that's not always "appropriate", but if you find someone who is down you can probably talk for hours about it.

Sorry if this is obvious stuff, I'm neurodivergent and some of these things don't come naturally to me

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Sorry if this is obvious stuff, I’m neurodivergent and some of these things don’t come naturally to me

Nah, thanks for the advice, i am not neurodivergent (i dont know tbh) but idk when but sometime after or during covid ive lost all of my social skills and it's been hard since and also thanks for being kind

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

Ah, yeah I relate to that a lot, I used to go out a lot and just deal with the anxiety but now I barely go out at all lol. The first couple of years really screwed a lot of us up, I think. The more you chat with her the easier it'll be, you got this!