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[–] [email protected] 98 points 6 months ago (4 children)

Of all hills to die on that ruin your reputation and legacy, why this one? I just don't get it.

I am a gen x cis heterosexual white male.

Transexuality is strange and foreign to me. I don't understand it. This gives me exactly zero right to take any stand against it. I'd say it gives me less right to express an opinion as how could I be knowledgeable on something I've just admitted I don't understand?

Let people live and go enjoy your billions.

[–] [email protected] 41 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Sup, fellow XCHWM here. My first thought was to agree and say something about how people’s right to exist and live the life that is normal to them doesn’t depend on anybody understanding or approving it. And assuming it’s peaceful and all that. You know, decent human stuff.

But then I reread your last line and got saddened by imagining the mental state of JKR. Imagine you are not just rich, but an adored famous artist, an American Dream success story, and doubly mega fucking rich to the point that you could just walk around giving random people life-changing amounts of money all day while funding other big amazing shit… and your mind is distracted by anger and fear towards the existence of other people you don’t even know. And now your famous name is attached to that awful attribute.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Completely agree with your broader points, and I know it's kinda nitpicky but

an American Dream success story

Dis lady hella British.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 6 months ago

Irrelevant from the American perspective! People all over the world have access to the American dream!

/s for me. I capitalized it for extra snark. Totally not /s for others in this country though.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 months ago

Mostly attention issues. She had her big hit, was very famous then that started to fade so tried a dozen different things to stay in the lienlight from bad sequels to bad prequels to publishing bad stories under a fake name, but none if it got her enough attention. So she did what basically every other washed up celebrity does and just be controversial to get attention.

And also I think part of it is that rich, steisght white women, are very privileged but being a woman gives them 1 point in the oppression Olympics so they think their opinions on these issues matters more. Which is why almost all the most outspoken term are middle class strisght white women.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Transexuality is strange and foreign to me.

Also XCHWM. Like most other things, it gets less strange and foreign the more exposure you have to it. My biggest old man Gen X hurdle so far regarding gender was remembering to use "they" when referring to a non-binary person. It felt weird for a while, but they more I did it, the easier it got.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)

In a different comment, I talked about the difficulty I have with pronouns. It's not because it offends me, it's because the traditional usage is so hard wired in whatever part of my brain oversees language.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago

I think most people are fine with it as long as you're genuinely trying to make the effort to be better.

It's when your age becomes an excuse to not bother that it becomes a problem.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

would you look at that? a balanced and nuanced conversation about jk rowling's legitimate concerns and how to deal with them:

https://thecorrespondent.com/702/im-trans-and-i-understand-jk-rowlings-concerns-about-the-position-of-women-but-transphobia-is-not-the-answer