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[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago (2 children)

You're missing the point by a mile. It's not about physical attraction, finances, or even the types of men just looking for a one-night stand. There are many men who want to be in long-term relationships, but don't put in the effort necessary to keep that relationship alive and healthy.

Men benefit from long-term relationshipsbmore than women; a woman's workload actually increases because she's usually the one tasked with managing the home and all of the emotional and physical labor that comes with that... even when she already has a full-time job.

In order for a woman to want to be with a man, he needs to positively affect her life overall. So many men simply do not do that. That is the barrier to entry, and it is far from an unreasonable one. It's generally easier and more desirable to be single than it is to be in a relationship with a man.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 6 months ago

Idk. To me, it seems many would rather care about appearance than positively affecting life.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 6 months ago

Whoa, whoa, slow down there… you’re saying men should be in charge of something? But that’s patriarchy!

Unless you only want to blame them for things not working out of course, because that’s what you’re doing if you give someone responsibility without giving them some sort of authority as well.

But let’s face it, in a relationship there is never, EVER such a thing as “it’s HIS fault” or “it’s HER fault”. The onus is always on both people — because unless you were forcefully married by your parents, both people chose each other out of their own volition.

So if you choose someone who keeps fucking up, guess what, that’s on you. And you can either put in the effort to try and figure out how to invoke a desire to change in them or chose someone better next time, but it’s gonna end up being work either way, because you won’t find a better partner unless you figure out why you chose the wrong one to begin with, you’ll just find more of the same.