[-] tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world 14 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Your mind has an active visual cortex. Other folks think more using their audio cortex. Some more with somatic awareness (feeling tone).

Mathameticians can visualize math.

Everyone is wired a bit different.

I'm a two or a four on the scale, depending on how much weed I consume. As heavy weed use dulls the minds eye. Though irregular use can enhance it.

And after years working in kitchens, I can think in smells. I.e.mix spices in my mind and smell them in my head before adding to a dish.

[-] tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world 14 points 2 months ago

Set healthy boundaries.

"I don't want to keep talking about this today."

And then leave the room.

If they make suicidal threats.

"If you're serious I'm going to have to call a welfare check."

[-] tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world 16 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

There are support groups for men out there that are not generally charectirized as toxic. Toxic folks may attack men for going to them, but I can tell you before I transitioned I used to go to one, and no one ever verbally attacked me for it.

[-] tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world 38 points 3 months ago

My older brother used to run around with a young man that was raised by racist bikers. The guy killed someone during a house robbery. And still I'm not sure that that person was irredeemably evil.

But I've also done time in prison. And was celled up with an old man that hurt a little girl. No acknowledgement, no remorse. Smiling, outgoing. But at the time I had no idea what he had done. And I had no idea that he was a sociopath until he opened up to me about cutting crow's tongues when he was young, because he had seen a talking crow at a circus. No empathy. As 'nice' as he seemed.

Looking back, he had that same look in his eyes that you can see in cult leaders and other sociopaths. When I watched the Nixium documentary with my partner, it was like that. A charismatic predator.

[-] tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world 28 points 3 months ago

He not only robbed us of a primary, he broke his one term promise.

And in doing so, shoved an uncharismatic center right candidate down our throats, whose only redeeming quality was not Trump.

Is that what democracy looks like?

[-] tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world 14 points 4 months ago

Let go of my defense mechanisms and cracked my egg on mushrooms.

Imagine getting out of bed and realizing you're a forty year old trans woman, who absolutely hates her entire wardrobe. And in a world that stigmatizes gender non-conformity.

But my partner was very supportive, and I spent the next few months replacing my wardrobe. Started on HRT. And life got better.

Scary. Still scared. But now I know I can love and be myself. And communication and understanding between my partner and I is much better too.

[-] tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world 26 points 4 months ago

A far right Venezuelan woman.

Peace prize is a joke.

[-] tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world 34 points 4 months ago

This far right nepo baby doesn't look like Greta at all.

[-] tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world 24 points 5 months ago

It sounds like there wasn't a girl in the locker room, but a trans boy.

I'm not saying that isn't awkward, but your perception of events aren't exactly accurate either.

I'm trans personally, and I think the solution to this is more gender-neutral spaces. If I use the men's room, I make men uncomfortable because I'm a woman. If I didn't pass, I might make folks uncomfortable in the women's room instead.

The issue is the gender binary and our cultures discomfort of anything outside it. Not that a trans boy was more comfortable in the boys locker room.

That said, I don't think the trans boy should have been filming. I get the he wanted to catch the harassment on video, but an audio recording would have served the same purpose.

[-] tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world 34 points 5 months ago

I'd like to see some women Democrats challenge him to other fitness activities.

Considering he bragged that he could beat basically any woman at any sport, because men are just better.

Hit him in his ego and his fragile masculinity.

And hopefully God and a heart attack will do the rest

[-] tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world 19 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

There's six realms in Buddhism, one is where the Indian Gods live.

And they pay homage to the Buddha. Because he transcends all realms. Even theirs.

He also let go of all attachment. King, God, he was beyond those things.

So he spent his life teaching the way of understanding and compassion,because he was not attached to himself. And if you're not attached to yourself, why do you care if your king or not?

[-] tree_frog_and_rain@lemmy.world 20 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

"According to court documents, transgender military members diagnosed with gender dysphoria were more deployable than their cisgender counterparts who were diagnosed with depression."

This is queer erasure. And you know it. Because you're here to spread hate and toxicity. Not to participate in good faith.

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I started mediating and studying buddha-dharma when I was incarcerated in 2015 and sustained a daily mindfulness practice for three years or so.

I was released just before covid and my practice fell off during the pandemic.

Over the week leading up to father's day I had a breakdown and some of the mental health issues that got me arrested in 2015 resurfaced. At the tailend of the breakdown I put on a body scan and had taken a small dose of psilocybin. I had also been working with a Buddhist therapist who has mentioned something about resting in the space between the end of the outbreath and the beginning of the inbreath.

The bodyscan starts by anchoring to the breathing and I let my attention rest completely in the breathing. And as the guided meditation was finishing up I noticed a vibration, like a snore but in consciousness itself, this vibration. Coarse. And I understood this is dukkha. And in the next moment, at the bottom of the breath, there was a moment where this vibration was absent.

The birds were still singing. My body was still on the mat. But for a moment, the intense suffering I had been experiencing over the previous week, was completely absent. And the moment was most defined by this contrast.

I experimented with it over the course of the night and was able to repeat the experience. At the bottom and top of the breathing, but also right in the middle. And I could tell a difference between clinching (trying to make the skip happen by holding the breathing or holding the thinking) and finding the skip by being aware of and letting go of dukkha.

My therapist is on vacation right now so I haven't had a chance to ask her about it.

But I am curious for other people's thoughts or experiences.

Thanks

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