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cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/4931735

my father was a university professor and an expert in his field, writing and publishing.

I'm not happy with my job and I'm deciding if I should keep it or study a bachelor, meaning less money for at least 3 years, working part time, relocating... for an uncertain future.

I explained my fears and the situation to my father thoroughly. This once brilliant person capable of giving me several points of view about several topics pasted my questions to an AI engine and sent me its answers, it's like he didn't even try to answer the questions himself. wtf?

It's sad and scary: a person I once could confide in, ask for guidance is now... disappearing? It's like he disregarded the emotional component completely.

He is now 78 years old. Am I being unrealistic?

And the AI answer? gets several things wrong and doesn't tell me anything new but holy shit, the way the answer is phrased (my personal opinion, what I think is...), no wonder so many seniors believe they're talking to an actual human, which is scary on so many levels, because the engine hallucinated several false facts and presented them so neatly packaged, seniors take them as correct fact.

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my father was a university professor and an expert in his field, writing and publishing.

I'm not happy with my job and I'm deciding if I should keep it or study a bachelor, meaning less money for at least 3 years, working part time, relocating... for an uncertain future.

I explained my fears and the situation to my father thoroughly. This once brilliant person capable of giving me several points of view about several topics pasted my questions to an AI engine and sent me its answers, it's like he didn't even try to answer the questions himself. wtf?

It's sad and scary: a person I once could confide in, ask for guidance is now... disappearing? It's like he disregarded the emotional component completely.

He is now 78 years old. Am I being unrealistic?

And the AI answer? gets several things wrong and doesn't tell me anything new but holy shit, the way the answer is phrased (my personal opinion, what I think is...), no wonder so many seniors believe they're talking to an actual human, which is scary on so many levels, because the engine hallucinated several false facts and presented them so neatly packaged, seniors take them as correct fact.

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cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/4789208

I always enjoyed explaining to patients what we do, why, what they should do for aftercare and what happens afterwards. What I don't like is the grind that's nursing and how immature, lazy and uneducated, proud antivaxers, many nurses I work with are.

The subjects don't seem that difficult, it would be simply studying more comprehensibly anatomy, biology, chemistry, medicines, OR, legal...

I find it realistic to pass this bachelor but I'm on the older side already. My fears are:

  • a reduced job pool: everyone needs nurses, but the need for PAs is not as big. I'd have less choice.

  • age discrimination: true that most of us will have to work till 70 or 72 but I'm still afraid of being rejected for being old.

OTOH: better work life balance and clearly more money in a field that's not completely unknown to me and I don't hate.

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I always enjoyed explaining to patients what we do, why, what they should do for aftercare and what happens afterwards. What I don't like is the grind that's nursing and how immature, lazy and uneducated, proud antivaxers, many nurses I work with are.

The subjects don't seem that difficult, it would be simply studying more comprehensibly anatomy, biology, chemistry, medicines, OR, legal...

I find it realistic to pass this bachelor but I'm on the older side already. My fears are:

  • a reduced job pool: everyone needs nurses, but the need for PAs is not as big. I'd have less choice.

  • age discrimination: true that most of us will have to work till 70 or 72 but I'm still afraid of being rejected for being old.

OTOH: better work life balance and clearly more money in a field that's not completely unknown to me and I don't hate.

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submitted 1 month ago by eli04@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I worked bedside nursing. Where i worked we always had extra food trays patients didn't want, meaning I could get up to 2 meals a shift for free.

On paper prohibited but where I worked at this was very extended, convenient and fast.

Changed workplaces and I cannot get any free food anymore. I simply don't know what to bring to the workplace.

If its of any help I like cooking stews, but it's gonna be a hassle to bring that to the workplace. And to bring a sandwich or buy one at the cafeteria? I'll pass.

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I just found out about JADE, "don't justify, argue, defend, explain" and I could use it with my dispatcher, an older man who's been there longer than me and feels entitled to act like my manager.

We work with wifi based smartphones which are not reliable and slow. Sometimes I have to upgrade android myself because the employee in charge of doing that simply doesn't. Every day the devices hang, meaning communication with the dispatcher is not possible, nor can I phone in (wifi based), nor can I check the task phase I am currently in (if the task is about to be done, if it's being done, if it's been done). When this happens, to avoid wasting time I simply do the job and then click through, something that seems to irritate this dispatcher extremely. Sometimes I get an urgent order, not through the smartphone but given verbally. When this happens I don't wait for the task to appear on my device, something that can last 15 minutes, but simply tell the coworker who gave me the order to type it in the database, do the task and then click through. This also pisses this dispatcher off.

There are 8 dispatchers I work with. Only this one is the problematic one: he likes to ask per chat if the smartphone works ok, to which I answer it works like everyday: with broken wifi, the application hanging, black spots with no reception...

His answer is always: the smartphone works, which pisses me off, because it's not true and he just won't listen.

I get so angry thinking about it because it's like working with an inflexible person incapable of showing empathy, unwilling to learn, who blames me for things I cannot control.

I already had a conversation with my union rep and with my manager about this but it seems I'll have to contact my rep again.

How would you use JADE here? blatantly ignoring him each time he asks if my device works?

Should I bluntly write back: Mr A, we've had this conversation several times already and it doesn't make any sense to talk to you because you're way too deep in your biases and you don't listen. Should you have any complains about my work, talk to our manager. Now, please, let me do my job.

I don't know how to deal with this person.

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I don't like her romantically and want nothing sexual with her either. She acts desperate to talk to me, won't get into more details.

I could act busy each time she approaches me, and avoid her as much as I can but I don't know if I should tell my manager about this. I don't even know what I'd tell a manager: "I'm informing that I want nothing to do with X and I'm going to keep my conversations with her to a minimum"?

Another idea: be boring as f*ck.

Do I tell her friends I don't like her?

Ideally I could tell her directly I'm not interested / I don't befriend coworkers (not true but it would work to soften the blow), but I simply don't know how defensive she's gonna get, laugh it off or accuse me of playing games.

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submitted 4 months ago by eli04@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/4052877

don't give me the it's never too late bs. Life happens, people have jobs, debts and rent to pay.

Going back to school when you're employed means debt, earning way less or nothing during your bachelor or master, stress, opportunities you're not aware of because you're simply not at your workplace anymore, unpaid overtime during those 2 to 3 years... the money you lose is more than what the bachelor / accreditation costs.

When does it start being a stupid idea? Is it when you're 30? 40? 50?

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don't give me the it's never too late bs. Life happens, people have jobs, debts and rent to pay.

Going back to school when you're employed means debt, earning way less or nothing during your bachelor or master, stress, opportunities you're not aware of because you're simply not at your workplace anymore, unpaid overtime during those 2 to 3 years... the money you lose is more than what the bachelor / accreditation costs.

When does it start being a stupid idea? Is it when you're 30? 40? 50?

[-] eli04@linux.community 3 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

my new salary now is 2% less than my old salary. I don't see your point.

career advancement was impossible under my old circumstances

[-] eli04@linux.community 3 points 5 months ago

it’s quite clear to me that me prioritizing my personal life over work made them insecure about themselves. Not listening to their forced, unasked and unwanted advice made them insecure about themselves. Working in a way that made sense to myself made them insecure about themselves.

When someone defies another person’s personal truth or reality, that has the potential to cause the other person to feel insecure about themselves.

With those people, I end up giving them short and vague responses until they leave me alone. They don’t deserve anything more.

holy shit, leaving was the correct decision. I always felt I didn't fit in because they expected me to be one of them, always subordinate to them, a useful idiot who would only work as they wanted.

I'm also glad I left. godspeed!

[-] eli04@linux.community 4 points 5 months ago

Some people care more about money and titles than personal well being.

correct, ironically this applies to this community as well.

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several months ago I wrote about leaving floor nursing for moving patients in beds. I also posted it would mean a 20% financial hit.

Turns out the financial hit is 2%. I took the job.

Several of my former colleagues, after seeing me now that I switched jobs cannot hide their disbelief and shock. Some of the things I've heard: "what a waste, you can do more." "You are a RN and you choose to move beds?", "Haven't you worked with us?", "Oh no, don't tell me you're moving beds now." and more.

I've always been very individualistic and never cared much about what others think about me. This new job means less stress and I can sleep better.

But it's not only other RNs who tell me this: doctors as well, very knowledgeable ones.

Am I doing something wrong, when so many people, some of them much smarter than me tell me what I'm doing is stupid?

Going back to my old job doesn't mean going back to my old department, just back to floor nursing.

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cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/3848527

from a, a coworker and b, a manager.

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from a, a coworker and b, a manager.

[-] eli04@linux.community 5 points 1 year ago

I see what you did there :D

management is sneaky, right? all my coworkers love drinking the koolaid.

[-] eli04@linux.community 7 points 1 year ago

Everyone wins!

no, I'm afraid you don't understand. Yours is what a rational solution looks like, the ones in charge of the unit don't want this, they want to control at what time I enter the unit.

If you have 2 older coworkers on a power trip looking for any excuse to explode on you for any perceived slight they are going to use this as ammunition.

It's though a superb idea and I'll be using my phone to record those first minutes and be ready to be ridiculed for it.

I need to quit.

[-] eli04@linux.community 3 points 2 years ago

somebody who gets it...

[-] eli04@linux.community 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

work is important to me because I like having a roof, food and healthcare. I don't have the luxury of not having to work.

Are you saying that work is a place to dump your issues or what you did on the weekend to the point of not doing your job? This is something I find very odd. I don't want to work with people with this mindset.

Are you advising me to ignore patients when they call? cause that's what they do and if a job is simply inconsequential, why bother?

Are you also advising me to listen to them when they rant against greens (an ecologist party in Germany) or migrants? It's tiring and closeted racist.

I don't see how my work ethic is the wrong one, or how yours would be better. Better if I want to become a careerist? absolutely. Better if I want to feel good with myself? absolutely not.

[-] eli04@linux.community 4 points 2 years ago

Du bewirbst dich intern und all deine Arbeitserfahrung ist in diesem Krankenhaus?

richtig gelesen

Da sind Arbeitszeugnisse nicht wirklich üblich, man kennt sich ja.

Dann verstehe ich diese Abteilung nicht...

[-] eli04@linux.community 4 points 2 years ago

wenn ich auf meinem Browser https://feddit.de/ abrufe bekomme ich: server error. Das verwirrt mich.

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