Fair.
The "right one" is to stop treating it as a "single issue" matter and dismissing literally decades of education research.
Maybe go read a modern textbook on education and see what issues there are, what the research on the subject says, and derive from that some conclusions about any "single issue" approach to education (whether it's "TEHY JUST NEED MORE JEEBUS!" or "we should throw everything out and replace it with reading").
So the "right one" is to shut the fuck up if you think there's a one-size-fits-all approach to education. Kind of like if you think there's a one-size-fits-all approach to anything. Even carpentry.
Spellynge and gramere ben of greet importaunce.
At the leeste, assayeth to doon it wel.
Save speche with folk, it is the manere whereby we commune with othere. It may be in craft (that is, professional wise), or in lightnesse (casually), or with felawes and frendes. With frendes, men mowe be ful unceremonious, and yif it be thy wone, thou mightest strowe thy writ with signes and ymages (emojis). Natheless, in casual wise, eek in writen wordes upon the net, folk oughten first to usen more formal stile, til they han y-espied the mood of the compaignye.
In matters of craft and office, ther is noon excusacioun; I care nat how “brighte” a man is holden, ne sholde he have licence for what-so-ever slouthe cometh doun the email weye (save his wit be y-joined with som sothfast diversitee of wit, as neurodivergence or swich). The vile writ that I have seen y-come from “professionals” is naught but shameful.
I mean if you're using modern English you're using hundreds of years of accumulated error.
(Be glad I only reached back to Middle English. Nobody wants to see what Old English looks like for this. What's that? You do?)
Stæfcræft and stæfgewritnes sind swiðe mære.
At læste, wyrc þu þæt wel.
Būtan spræce mid folce, is þæt þæt we mid oðrum sprecath and dōð. Hit mæg beon on cræfte (þæt is, on weorce), oððe on lætlicum wisan, oððe mid frēondum. Mid frēondum mæg man beon untrum and spedig, and gif hit is þīn gewuna, þu miht asettan hīehte-tācn (emojis) swā hit þē licað. Ac on lætlicum wisan, eac on netgewritum, scyle man fremian þæt he brūce māre stiðre gewrit, oð þæt he ongyte hū þæt folc þearf hæfð.
On cræftum and weorcum is nænne forlætenes; ic ne gymð hu “glēaw” sum mann sy, ne sceal he hæbban forlætenes for swelc slæwð þæt cymð þurh þā e-mail weg (butan þæt glēawnes sy gemæne mid sōðfæstum mōdlicum ungelīcnesse, swā swā ānra gehwilc hæfð). Þæt yfel gewrit þe ic geseah of sumum “cræftum menn” is nāht būtan sceamu.
I have quite a few friends who are former lovers.
The things that make good friends don't always make for the best lovers. It's almost like we have two different words there for a reason.
For OP, your problem isn't friends/lovers. It's that when you broke up you weren't sufficiently firm on post-breakup boundaries.
These, while all probably true (I lack the technical chops to evaluate), don't matter for most people.
What matters to most people is having a computer that doesn't actively interfere with their ability to do their work. And that's where Linux fails, regardless of the reason.
Nobody cares that their machine doesn't do X on Linux because of some cabal behind the scenes arranging it. They care they can't do X on Linux, but they can on Windows.
You got it. I'm waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too lazy to do it right!