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[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago

Hey, doing better already here. (At least no longer sick) Although I still have frequent days where it seems like I cannot get anything done.

I think a big part of the problem for me is that I don't really allow myself enough rest. Even when sick, I tend to try and rest by playing games, watching movies or reading stuff online. But if I can manage to just stop myself and do nothing (really nothing) for 30 minutes, that seems to help so much more.

I hope you find a way to get up and running again so you can prepare for your concert and trip. But it's also fine if you don't, I think. You will get through it either way, good luck!

 

I've been diagnosed with ADHD and Autism and I'm pretty familiar with the difficulties and increased anxiety/depression in day-to-day life.

Overall, I'm doing pretty well now. If people talk to me, they would not know I experience any difficulties in life. (Although I'm currently not working). I'm not really that stressed in general, I'm doing much better socially, capable of getting things done everyday, and not feeling terribly tired every day anymore.

But sometimes, seemingly unannounced, I get these bouts of severe discomfort. It feels to me like anxiety, but it's not preceded by any worrying thoughts. (as far as I can tell).

When I feel this, I usually have to lie down or I might start coughing and vomiting. And I will not be able to get myself to do anything anymore. (not even just do something I usually enjoy.)

This can last for an hour, but sometimes it's almost a whole day. Afterwards, I seem to be perfectly fine again.

Is this something that anybody else experiences? Or is there something else going on? Everytime I go to the doctor to explain this, they don't seem to be worried and tell me that it's probably fine.

But fear for having this happen again (And it seems to happen quite frequently), is what is keeping me from making any commitments in terms of my life or work.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago

It's true, but that's exactly why you would need this no? Places where people can share skills and help each other, because you don't have money left to replace or buy new things.

 

Are there still places near the center in Sydney where you can get help to get electronics or clothes repaired? (Or get help to learn how to do it yourself?)

I find a bunch of events and places, but they all seemed to have disappeared or only organise paid workshops nowadays.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I realise that a big part of the difficulties I experienced was because I never really took a moment to sit still and check whether what I was doing made sense. Like, is this actually what I want to do, is this even good for me? (mentally and physically)

I finally got the time to think a bit, and it made so much difference. At the beginning you still feel a lot of pressure from yourself, because obviously there is a financial part to it. But even beyond that, I noticed I always wanted to be doing something productive (Like doing exercise, making better food, learning some skill, etc.)

After a while (and doing a bit more meditation), the perspective started to shift and I started to realise that most things are much more bearable, if not even fun, when you start just taking your time, not rushing yourself, not trying to optimise everything. This applies to work, but also hobbies, like gaming and browsing the internet. Even gaming becomes stressful if you are always looking for the next goal, the next target and your start filling hours upon hours with that activity.

Talking with other people seems to put this into perspective. It's so easy to tell somebody else to not worry about something and take it easy. But then you realise that they could give that same advice to you and it would still apply. Sometimes just acting/talking towards yourself with the same concern and compassion that you show other people (even strangers) can be so helpful.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Thanks man. Ended up going and it was really nice to share experiences and frustrations. Glad I decided to go.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I actually went today. It was nice. It's surprising how respectful and accommodating everyone was. I've never really experienced something like that with people at work and such.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago

Yeah, I very much tend to overthink and think in terms of worst case situations. Strange thing is that, even when I know the worst case is not really an issue, I still feel like it's so hard. Especially in social situations I can never really get rid of that little panic/tension that seems to stay present.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Thanks, I definitely know the feeling of delaying reaching out. I've basically dealt with all my issues on my own in the first 20 years of my life, even didn't really talk to family about it. (didn't really talk in general) And I'm more and more aware of how difficult i've made things for myself by doing that. Not that it's easy, but everytime I talk about it, it's useful in some way.

 

A contact of mine suggested me to join a support group to find people with similar difficulties and talk to them.

I found a group nearby, but I'm a bit reluctant to go. I can feel myself making up excuses as to why it would not be a good idea.

  • I don't feel like it would be helpful.
  • I will feel like they have even more severe issues than me and I can't relate.
  • It's a group with 10 people, so I feel like it's a bit too much for me. I feel like I will just let everybody else talk and be silent like usual.
  • I was a bit sick in the past weekend and I'm worried about making other people sick (even though it's kinda over)

Anybody already went to a support group before, what was your experience?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Is it possible to sharpen with a higher grit. Like 4k/6k if my knife is quite dull and has some chips? A colleague lend me his stone, but it seems very fine, so either my technique is bad, or it's too fine to sharpen my knife.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

During the past year, my favorite food has become greek yoghurt with cruesli (and sometimes jam or honey). It's so easy to prepare and (I feel) still relatively healthy.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Thanks. I feel like the most difficult thing to deal with is that while sick, I just can't shake this continues bombardment of pains and discomfort. It makes it so I can barely think, frequently can't talk (because I can't focus on the words people say, or can't arrange my thoughts to talk)

It almost seems like a lot of activities that I used to dislike (going outside, visiting friends, doing sports) are solely because I have once done them while being sick. And the discomfort I felt was so bad that I permanently associate those feelings with those activities.

I now realise that this is not the case, and I should not push myself too much. But my body still seems to react heavily, even though I rationally know I should just take time to rest and it will pass.

 

Hi all

It's quite common for people with adhd (and autism) to have problems with executive functioning and working memory. Which can influence a bunch of things like being able to follow steps, remembering where you left things, being able to follow a conversation, concentrating on some task, etc...

I've been diagnosed for both (autism more recently) and got to know that based on the tests of my assessment that my working memory is quite heavily impaired, but the rest of my mind works quite normal.

In day to day life, this can be rather bothersome, but I usually find some way to deal with it. But when sick, or when I had a bad sleep, suddenly I become almost incapable of basic tasks. Unable to prepare food, make appointments, or work in any way.

It's quite normal that this impacts your working memory in a negative way. (Even for neurotypicals, it's the same). But there seems to be this threshold where things become almost impossible. Where you start forgetting things you have to do only moments later.

I'm looking for ways to cope with these moments. Obviously when sick, you need rest, and eat enough. So I'm not looking to force myself to be able to work while sick. But sometimes it's so bad that I even forget to rest, forget how to cook, forget how to order food online, forget how to take care of myself. Which usually results in me being sick and worse off for a much longer time.

Things I've found that help me:

  • Meditation (Incredibly difficult when sick, but every bit seems to help)
  • Medication (ADHD meds seem to help a bit, if I'm using them at the moment, I seem to feel much better, even when it's mostly physical discomfort. )
  • Committing skills/knowledge to long-term memory (This is difficult because usually it requires extra time and calm moments where you can focus on it. It helped me a lot for cooking. Practicing the basics makes it much easier to get cooking even if I feel terrible)

Any other suggestions as to what might be good ways to improve working memory and make sure that I stay functional to make sure I can take care of myself?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Thanks, sounds interesting, I'll check it out!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Usually i'm kinda fine with being dirty for a while. Although being overly sweaty can be a bit uncomfortable. I think my partner is bothered more by this. Especially if the apartment gets dirtier than usual. (I normally do the cleaning and cooking)

It's a bit strange actually. I know that it's ok to order food or eat out somewhere nearby when I'm sick. But at the same time, I don't really have the capacity to make a choice, and even feel like I shouldn't do it (because it's less healthy, more expensive) Maybe it's because anxiety gets stronger when feeling sick? Not sure.

I would love to watch some show or read a bit when sick. But often my eyes become dry and hot when sick. Combined with a headache and suddenly I don't enjoy it much anymore. Maybe I should consider listening to some podcast or something. But I don't do that usually, so no idea where to start and searching for something requires looking it up on my laptop, which brings me back to my dry eyes and headaches.

Maybe I can prepare something next time. Any suggestions for things that don't require my eyes?

 

I thought I ate something wrong, but I've been sick for more than 3 days now. Sneezing, nose completely blocked, coughing, vomiting, terrible sleep, muscle pain, stomachache and sharp headaches.

It seems like my partner also got infected, because they started sneezing a day later.

But I don't even really mind all this physical pain and discomfort. The thing that bothers me the most is that I'm completely useless. Unable to think properly apart from a few moments during the day. Sometimes even unable to talk or properly understand my partner.

I can't even read or play a game or something because it quickly gives me a painful headache, and I don't enjoy anything at the moment anyway.

Anyone have some strategies to cope with this? Seems to happen frequently when I get sick and I don't really know how to deal with it. And it seems like it also drags on quite long because I forget to eat enough, I don't seem to have enough energy to take care of myself (brushing, showering)

 

Hi all

I'm using barefoot shoes for a few years now, and was amazed by how comfortable they are for me.

I remember each time when buying new shoes that I would have blisters and pain for at least two weeks.

When I bought barefoot shoes, I expected to need a few months to get adjusted to them. But they felt comfortable from the very beginning! (maybe because I used to walk on my toes during my childhood, even got support soles for that, but didn't really help)


More recently, I participated in a 100km within 24h walk. I expected to fail because it was the first time I was participating in a challenge like this, but I made it!

Obviously I was tired and the last part was quite difficult still. But I was amazed that I managed to walk for more the first 50km without any discomfort or blisters.

 

I'm using Nixos 24.05 on my asus zenbook 14 and the scroll speed of the touchpad is rather high.

Is there any way to adjust it from the config? I don't see an option in gnome/wayland

 

I recently bought an asus zenbook 14 (AMD version) and the scroll speed of the touch pad is quite fast.

Does anybody know how to change this?

I'm using Nixos 24.05, Gnome/Wayland

 

I feel so tired after half a day of work, never mind working a full day. After a couple of weeks of this, when i get home, i have no energy left for anything. Even things I usually enjoy.

Everything feels like a drag at that point and I can’t seem to do anything to improve this.

Doing this for a few more months usually ends up with me having to quit my job or i will get so tired and sick I can’t do anything anymore.

How to deal with this?

 

I recently moved to a new city and don’t know anybody here yet.

I want to try out some things and meet new people and avoid sitting at home all day (but sometimes is ok)

My ideas are hiking, volunteering and reading. What would you recommend? Any good ideas?

 

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I download and store music in my home folder for my desktop user, but also would like to share it with my jellyfin server, but obviously I cannot select a folder from my home folder as a library folder.

Is there any simple and clean way to make this folder available on a server?

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