I took my now wife window shopping for rings when we were getting close to engagement time so that I'd know what she would want. It was clear that the answer was gonna be yes no matter what, but I knew she'd have a ring preference anyway. She saw prices and explicitly said that she'd like white sapphire on sterling silver. I found a bridal set that she adores which very much did not cost a month or two of salary.
Because we didn't blow a ton of money on engagement/wedding shit, we've had much more resources to support the marriage itself. I've heard of regular everyday people spending $3-4k on a fucking ring. We spent 9 days in a few different places in Spain for about that cost instead lol.
8 year olds still have a lot of potential to grow. This piece of shit has shown a track record of about 70 years of non growth. Imagine getting rewarded for a behavior for 70 years straight. Even if he had the humility and intelligence to do it, he doesn't have the time left it would take to rewire his brain against that kind of conditioning.
To be clear, I'm not excusing him. I'm explaining that his brain is irreversibly fucking broken. Anybody holding on to hope that he changes in any meaningful way, don't you think that getting shot at would've been a humbling moment if ever there were to be one? By being a disgusting, hateful, stupid predator asshole consistently for his whole life, he's gotten absurd wealth, a model wife, an army of cultist followers, and he got to be president. Twice. When was he supposed to have learned that he should really take the time and energy necessary to do some growing?