Grail

joined 10 months ago
[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

I think it's very simple. If you spend all day thinking about gay dick, your body is going to react. Normally only gay mascs and horny women spend all day thinking about gay dick. Straight men don't have a reaction to gay dick because they don't condition that response. They don't think about gay dick for long enough for Pavlov to kick in. Homophobes condition themselves by constantly thinking about sex (hot; unconditioned stimulus) and gay (conditioned stimulus) at the same time. If they just quit thinking about gay sex all day, their fetish would go away. But that would require being less homophobic, and they can't. Then they get worried that they're gay, because they like dick, so they assume being gay is what they have. And since what they have sucks, they assume being gay sucks, which makes them more homophobic.

A similar thing happens in POCD, or Pedophile Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. The fear of being a pedophile conditions an association between children and arousal, which self-reinforces in a vicious cycle. Fortunately, most people with POCD are not fascists, so they're capable of having a normal response to it in which they don't proceed to deliberately indulge in the association. In order for someone to be homophobic and suffer the same thing with gay thoughts, their judgement has to already be compromised, which produces a more toxic reaction.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 days ago (1 children)

https://medium.com/@viridiangrail/princesses-are-nsfw-f9e6c3d4532d

We shouldn't be teaching small children to admire princesses, it's disgusting.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago

Apologies. Lemmy doesn't seem to like posts that have both links and images.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

One of the users on My discord server says someone is lying about Me. I assure you, My pronouns are not goddess. I do not appreciate being lied about, I do not appreciate being misgendered, I do not appreciate being called insane, and I do not appreciate you spreading rumours about Me across the fediverse. I have reported your comment for harassment and I expect you to leave Me alone from now on.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 month ago

Pataphysics is a valid scientific discipline.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

https://www.healthyhomes.org.au/news/heh1pp76ot3hpljgf9x3mp7umqndch

A new study published in The Lancet shows 6.5% of deaths in this country are attributed to cold weather, compared with 0.5% from hot weather. Most deaths will be from cardiovascular and respiratory disease, as it’s the heart and lungs that struggle when we are outside our comfort zone.

Cold weather causes twice as many deaths (proportional to population) as in Sweden. Australia's cold weather problem is, when measured in deaths, twice as bad as Sweden's. People DO die from extreme cold here in Australia, much worse than they do in Europe.

 

Isabel Fall’s sci-fi story “I Sexually Identify as an Attack Helicopter” drew the ire of the internet. This is what happened next.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Thanks. Looks like My theory was wrong, The unban still hasn't federated. I'll just wait for the original ban to time out, thanks for helping.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Yeah, I realised I was wrong when someone else in this thread subscribed. I started seeing the posts on the community update, but not the modlog. I was hoping it would just take a few hours for everything to federate, but no dice. The ban is about to time out in a couple hours anyway, so I think I'll just wait.

Federation of community content is community based, though, and I can prove it. Take a community that nobody on Aussie Zone is subscribed to, and look at it from Aussie Zone. It'll look empty. Subscribe, wait ten minutes, refresh the page, and you'll see the most recent 20 or so posts appear. You can do the experiment with any small or new community that not many people here would know about. Just browse the trending communities thingy on another instance, and look for one with a couple of posts. For example, [email protected] and [email protected] both look empty from Aussie Zone right now. If you subscribe, you'll start seeing days-old posts appearing. Assuming nobody else from here subscribes to them in the intervening time.

 

This is a simple software bug. You see, the way Lemmy federates is that updates to a community only federate to instances that have a user subscribed to that community. If you take a community like [email protected], I'm the only person on all of Aussie Zone who subscribed to it. I know it because when I subscribed, we started getting updates from Blahaj.Zone about that community.

A few days ago, I was mistakenly banned from that community. And this caused Blahaj.Zone to stop sending our instance updates on the community. I spoke with the admin of the community and got unbanned, but the unban didn't federate. The instance will only let us know I'm unbanned if someone here subscribes over there. And I can't subscribe, because this server thinks I'm banned. It's a deadlock. If it wasn't for the ban, I could subscribe and the server would realise there isn't a ban anymore. But I can't, because this server thinks there is still a ban.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I do believe in erasing the experiences of minorities. If I were living in Germany in 1939, I'd erase the experiences of the Jew living in My basement while talking to the Gestapo. I erase My own experiences all the time. I misgender Myself to stay in the closet to avoid violence. Never been out as goddessgender at work or school.

If what you are advocating is total exposure of all information having to do with minorities, you're talking about actions that will get people killed. That's why Republicans are trying to pass laws to require ID for Pornhub, you know. They want to know all about the lived experiences of gay and trans people by analysing our porn habits, so they can do violence against us. What you're speaking in favour of is genocide.

I am glad it was just a mistake, but it was a mistake that you prevented Me from fixing the easy way. I couldn't report the comment, couldn't reply. So I made this post, and had to put up with being grilled on My pronoun usage and told My identity is evil by various people. I didn't defend any oppressive systems, I outlined a strategy to just shut up for a few months until it's safe to act again without causing a genocide. I didn't break rule 2. But you did break rules 5 and 8. Shouting down leftism. No open discussion. I did everything I could to play by the rules and disagree with you politely. Maybe instead of making an exception for Me, it's time to actually enforce your community's rules by not being so ban-happy with everyone. What happened today was bound to happen eventually and it's going to keep happening as long as nobody's allowed to have an open discussion about the election on your community. Everyone who disagrees being banned is not an open discussion.

 

Two hours ago I made a post to [email protected] about US politics. I had previously had a good relationship with the head moderator of this community. They've encouraged My political posts, and he's removed comments by people that misgendered Me, and reminded people of My pronouns, like in this thread two days ago:

https://imgur.com/RuNKgM1.png

https://imgur.com/GLT7HR0.png

However, an hour ago in this new thread, the same moderator who was telling people to respect My capitalised pronouns uses lowercase pronouns to address Me:

https://imgur.com/fmGtHvf.png

And he has left up earlier comments which also seemed to misgender Me, and which I specifically pointed out:

https://imgur.com/KZnosuC.png

Even as some users in the thread gender Me correctly:

https://imgur.com/EBuGfom.png

I'm making this thread in the main community because since the mod has banned Me, I can no longer report the comment or leave a reply correcting the pronoun. I would like to gain the attention of @[email protected]

Misgendering trans people and banning Them at the same time so They can't do anything about it is not the kind of thing I expect to see on Blahaj. This mod is clearly 100% aware of My pronouns, and made a choice here. I suppose they could be using the general "you", but it just doesn't look like that, what with banning Me, telling Me My post isn't welcome, and telling Me to go to a different community. I used to have a good rapport with this mod, they said several times that they valued My posts. I posted something he disagrees with, and now all of a sudden respecting trans people's pronouns isn't a priority anymore. He's misgendering Me and they're leaving up comments that also misgender Me. It feels targeted.

EDIT: I cannot seem to embed images. Every time I hit edit and fix the image links and press save, they change to some kind of aussie.zone image proxy link. For now I have left them as links without embedding them.

 
 

c/neurodivergence isn't being moderated at all lately. Three months ago there was the great post from [email protected] concerning ableism against people with NPD, and the amount of toxicity I saw in that thread was shocking. Some great people pushing back on the ableism and hate there, but I couldn't believe those hateful comments were being left up, or the sheer volume of them.

Yesterday I posted a new article I wrote also concerning NPD, hoping I would get the same kind of positive response I've gotten from Beehaw in the past when talking about neurodiversity. But instead I saw nothing but hate, personal attacks, and vicious toxicity. This isn't the kind of discourse I come to Beehaw to see, and I don't think I'm alone.

Looking at the community history, it looks like the post volume has dramatically reduced since immediately before that first NPD post. I'm not surprised people are avoiding the community, I don't intend to use it anymore either if what I received yesterday is going to be the norm.

The modlog of this community hasn't been touched in 7 months, and the only comment removal visible at all is tagged with the removal reason "stupid comment", which I frankly find quite ironic.

Can we please have some actual moderation on this community? If there is absolutely nobody else who can volunteer their time then I'd even be happy to do it Myself.

 

This was the biggest trans community I could find with the search function, and I am transfem (male to goddess), so hope it fits

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