If they did an actually good job, they would ask every person after every single swipe, "Why did you reject/accept this person?" and zero in on your type instantly. They'd use that data to immediately, strictly filter for such people and you'd be off in a month, tops. I don't know how many times I have to repeat it: they do not care about you matching.
With that said, people being difficult and guarded and full of expectations sure don't help, either, yeah.