It's probably a huge house, much bigger than he needs. Even the advice columnist says he should downsize.

I read that it was normal for women to keep their body hair until razor companies started marketing ads towards women, making them think they'd be more beautiful hair-free. Soon porn started featuring mainly hair-free women, so more and more men grew up thinking this was normal. Eventually hair removal amongst women became the norm, to the extent that now a woman is considered ugly or unkempt if she doesn't remove her body hair. So the whole thing was just about making money.

So sorry this happened to you. IME finally accepting that you're disabled for life and that you can't do the things you used to any more, isn't the hard part. The hard part is how society treats you for being disabled, unemployed, a burden to society, etc. What country are you in? Some of us here might be able to give you tips and support with the disability benefit process and whatever other help you might need.

I'm biologically female, and I've had the same issue. I once had an elderly male acquaintance start loudly discussing my sexuality in a crowded cafe, announcing to the room that I must be a lesbian since I didn't have a romantic partner. He went on and on about it until everyone in the cafe was looking at me and laughing.

It's worse than what the tories had planned, as far as I can see. This Labour government are basically tories x 2.

Definitely. I've had several refuse to write me letters for my benefit claims, even though I am diagnosed. It would cost them 5 minutes to do. It costs me everything when they don't. They just don't care. And when my current one found out I've been feeding myself by begging for food vouchers on here, she looked at me with utter contempt and said I have to stop doing that. Like OK, I'll just starve then. They really don't care if I'm starving, destitute and homeless. Then she gets angry that her silly "therapy" hasn't cured me.

I'm not sure. My previous therapist, who I saw at the same place in 2019 (and who was also terrible), admitted she wasn't even qualified yet. If you don't have to be qualified to work as an NHS therapist I don't know whether you have to be licensed.

I'll think about it after the benefit appeal. But really all therapists are shit. I had an emergency appointment with a different one once, as I was feeling very suicidal. She told me to buy the new age book "The Secret," about the law of attraction, and use it to attract whatever I want into my life, then I won't be depressed any more. That was all, she then practically shoved me out the door. No more help. They're all awful.

I've thought about it, but there are two problems with that. First I don't think they'd care, the therapy centre has nothing but 1 star reviews online and they have a huge turnover of staff, no-one is there long enough to care. Also I'm worried she'd get revenge on me by fucking up my benefit appeal somehow, telling them I didn't attend all the sessions or something. I did miss some of the sessions due to illness.

Thanks. I wish society in general felt this way but I've had all kinds of nasty comments from members of the public too. Due to my benefits being stopped and the difficulty of accessing the local food bank, I begged a Christian organisation for help, believing that Christians provide food aid. The Christians refused to help me, told me that I shouldn't even be getting benefits because "that's socialism," and one told me "Man up and sort your own problems out." I'm not even a man so I guess it wasn't a gender-based insult just letting me know I'm pathetic lazy trash in the eyes of working people.

Thanks. I am due another neurology appointment soon, I'll talk to them about it.