Yikes. Was it ever confirmed deliberate?

unless they're from an instance that supports hateful content.

I suppose the crux of the matter is what each person thinks hateful content is.

I'm OOTL. What dogwhistle stage are we talking about?

Back on reddit, the main way I found new subs was by people mentioning them in the comments of related threads in my existing subs. Once we start getting a bigger level of activity in the "main" communities, I feel like sharing smaller ones will happen organically.
Until then, keep spreading the word :)

If you're that emotionally invested that early on, you may need to do some self-reflection. The early stage of dating someone is not supposed to be a serious-committed-relationship type of vibe. You really are just hanging out and getting to know whether you would like to spend more time with the other person. If you're so invested at that stage that ghosting is considered taxing to you, sit with your own priorities for a while and determine whether you're going into dating with a healthy mindset.

And you don't have to be ruthless to know that your time would be better spent elsewhere. Take the sunk-cost on the chin and move on.

Yeah tbh you see that kind of thing with non-romantic conversations all the time as well. How many times has someone said "we should hang out more" and you say "yeah, totally!" even though you know you never will, lol.

Definitely a good idea to follow up after the date just to keep the lines of communication open. I don't buy into the whole "wait x amount of time" thing.

I understand that it's frustrating, but I'd like to suggest that we be the bigger people about it.

For every user in the vocal minority saying those things, there are plenty of users who will see kbin and lemmy mentioned more and more, and get curious.

If we start getting a "leavers vs stayers" mentality over here, we might drive away those people who could grow our communities.

Be relentlessly positive about our new home, and we will thrive in the end.

I think we're all mourning the loss of community and information found on reddit. Being angry that spez has forced protesters into the position to dismantle these communities is a legitimate and understandable reaction.

I don't see in the above comment that this person is spez-friendly or getting angry at the protesters specifically, just acknowledging that the whole thing sucks for everyone.

There were a lot of attention-seeking people on reddit who weren't necessarily trying to get karma. It just happened that karma was the measure of the attention you were getting, so being a "karmawhore" was a side effect of wanting attention.