I'm kind of in the same place. I'm on a waiting list for an assessment. I have two therapists (one individual, one couples) and they both operate under the assumption I am AuDHD. One is autistic herself so I take that as peer review lol.

Here are my pros and cons:

Pro:

• Possible workplace accommodations. Work is very chill about needs but I would feel less guilt about asking for something someone else told me would help.
• Help identifying what accommodations I could use
• Giving me a "reason" for why I am the way I am - justification to make life changes to be more healthy and happy (vs being an absolute failure who deserves to work myself into an early grave).
• I am in a leadership position in my industry - I feel like it's my duty to let my freak flag fly, so to speak, to allow others to know they are not alone. Diagnosis would be validating and make me feel comfortable saying to a wider audience "I'm autistic". Lets be real, the ND% in my industry is well above average (extremely niche engineering discipline) but it would be nice to see people be more open about it.

Cons:

• My boss's boss is ableist as fuck although I suspect she's ND as well. I don't want to leave my job but I will not put up with any of her shit if she decides to comment on this. She's already made ableist comments to me about people being ND without knowing I am ND.
• I worry about the ability to immigrate in the future. I have no plans to, but I know that I wouldn't be able to move to my current country if I had a diagnosis. (I don't think it needs to go on my medical file as it's done outside of the health care system but IDK).
• I worry about the ability to travel to the states. I have no desire to do so currently (even though there are so many trains I want to ride and so many nature I want to see) but I do have aging family there. I was already nervous going last year with my ADHD meds but we drove and it didn't come up, but I feel like border crossing is only going to get worse.

Naw fam, it's speciest as hell to put human feelings before animal lives.

I don't know if this would work for you but I give myself a long time to drink my coffee. I take my meds and sit and drink my coffee while catching up with my online communities. I wake up well before my partner so the house is silent and no one is trying to interact with me.

Exercise was good for me too, but I haven't found a way to make it work for me where I live/work now.

Everyone is different, but emotional regulation was the first thing I noticed on the meds! That's how I knew they were kicking in lol.

I'm so pleased to hear the wok is working! It looks really delicious.

I like the idea of using the end of the year to reflect and set goals but I really didn't have the capacity to do that this year. I think my main goal for 2025 is to figure out what self care looks like lol

What do the cops do when you call them for a robbery or accident, which you do after the fact? Fill out paper work? Is that help?

When my things were stolen from my apartment building,I had to call the cops to get a report number for my insurance. If I wanted it investigated further, I had to contact my apparent and ask them if they had video coverage of the area.

I've never been in a car accident as an adult, but I understand I am legally obligated to report damage to a collision center. Do we need cops for that?

Other interactions I've had with cops include them buzzing me from my apartment lobby OVER AND OVER AGAIN at 3 am instead of just leaving a massage when someone turned in my wallet that I had dropped. I had not dropped it late at night so I can only assume they were bored and looking for fun? I was absolutely terrified about what was happening. Eventually, they left and left a message and I went back the next day. No way in hell I'm going to my apartment lobby at that time.

I've also seen them beat the shit out of friends and neighbours for various terrible crimes such as: existing while poor or attending protests. The only gun I've had pointed at me in my life was a cops.

Vegans criticize PETA: 🤷‍♀️

Carnist criticize PETA: all I hear is "BUT I WANT MY NUGGIES"

I haven't figured it out yet but I have been given two tips that I intend to try on some upcoming time off:

1. Continually ask yourself: how could I be even cozier?
2. If you are feeling tired, you are doing a good job.

I think the important context about the tired comment is that my issue is that my nervous system is constantly in flight/flight/freeze and I feel like I'm vibrating all the time. If your burnout is making you exhausted, that might not be helpful.

I'm sharing my thoughts here but I'm not trying to argue with you about your approach. This is just what I do for my own well-being.

As soon as someone starts to give me an excuse about why they aren't vegan, I stop listening. They aren't trying to share roadblocks they want help overcoming, they are trying to protect themselves from feeling guilty.

I can show people they can live a healthy life with delicious, low cost, low effort foods without enslaving animals. If they wanted to know about that, they would ask, like: "Hey, I notice when I don't eat corpses I feel a little run down..." and then we can approach it together. Otherwise I just assume they have a terminal case of meat brain and they get mentally filed away in the carnist slot 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ditching consumerism really helped me, I think. I no longer feel like I am giving things up. Just because something is available to purchase and I can afford it doesn't mean it is 1) good for me, 2) ethical ) harmless. This applies to food, goods, services.

I'd say that probably started with thinking about what it means to buy something and then being responsible for it. So the habit is thinking, "What am I going to do with this?" whenever I am considering buying something. Eventually the desire lessens and I no longer want things.

Comrade, did you ask why it got deleted? I don't know the answer (because I didn't ask) but I also didn't notice. I'm curious why you reposted it with this title and what you are seeking to say with it?

All of the listed things are generating income from access to captive animals. They are inherently exploitative.

Would you pay to visit captive humans if the reason for their captivity was "they can't survive on their own", "it's what's best for them?" or "it's for research"?

Animals sanctuaries that are doing their best and are not speciest can exist, but the animals are residents and are not displayed.