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Hah, gay.
Honestly, I grew up in a time where gay just meant "dumb". I still say it from time to time on accident, knowing that it's unacceptable say it today.
Like, I've called so many things "gay" through the decades that it's lost any connection to LGBT stuff in my head. But strangely, I've never used it as an insult to a person. I have no idea why.
I'm a living example of that south park episode with the bikers...
Mostly the same for "f@g". My gay friends called each other that back in the 90's. LOL, they called me that. It simply wasn't a big deal, no harm, no foul.
Same for "retard". I got a warning from a reddit mod I liked, on a really reasonable sub, for talking about "retarding the action" on a mechanical device. Yeah.
While we're at it, I didn't know "negro" had somehow turned into a pejorative until Oceans 11 came out. I thought it was a polite, though archaic, word. "Colored" had been out for some time, but again, I thought it was just an old word and nobody cared. And "Eskimo", and "Oriental", and so on. Never heard those words used in a derogatory context. (Gods please, don't try to educate me. I truly get it now. Just relating my experiences and thoughts for context.)
This kinda thing is what conservatives are on about. No, they're not sad that they can't throw n****r around any longer. FFS, that word has been anathema since I was a child in the 70s. It's just that language is changing at an historic rate, and fuck you if you don't keep up with every nuance. Anyone remember when "African-American" was a big thing, and even black people were laughing at it?
I have no desire to hurt anyone's feelings, always trying to learn, but on a single decade's timeline, language is a minefield. Now do 50-years. (OK, don't care about conservatives or Russians, but you get my drift.)
Same for "retard". I got a warning from a reddit mod I liked, on a really reasonable sub, for talking about "retarding the action" on a mechanical device. Yeah.
I had some limited entertainment hassling mods on reddit about their stupid automated bots that couldn't understand that words like "retard" or "abort" have meanings outside of insults and politics.
It's so fucking hilarious that there's a pink floyd poster on the wall of that gif too...
But yeah, I'm the same - I have no desire to hurt anyone's feelings. I support the existence of LGBT people, I'm not exactly going to pride events or anything, but my daughters are somewhere along that spectrum of sexuality and I don't give them shit for it; I've always supported them.
Nah, educate me lol. Eskimo is considered derogatory?
Loved a reddit sub about historical pics. There was a poster constantly uploading "Eskimo" pics, and describing them as such.
OMFG, the comments. Every time. Funny thing is, the poster claimed they were of Far-Northern-North-American-Descent-Before-Whites-Came-Along. Of course we can't use "Inuit", because they're not all Inuits. Fair enough.
Same - i still have to be careful, because it's so natural for me to call something gay, because i think it's just stupid.
I impusively call my husband gay, we're heterosexual.
Nothing has replaced gay. It still remains the most useful word to describe something. Nothing else quite fits.
Like you say it doesn't mean homosexual it has so much use.
Yeah if I heard another straight guy say the word “heterophobic” I would unleash an onslaught of bullying so brutal that he’d wish he’d never learned the word.
Lol gay
Oh boy I want to try!
"You're just being heterophobic, bro. All love matters."
Ohhh, give it a go.
How “straight” would insult a straight people?
that's such a straight thing to ask
Tone and context. Hell, anything can be used an insult.
Fragile personalities that already think sexuality is scary will implode if you mention theirs
They also believe gay is still an insult, it is to be “the other” and if you throw it right back at them their little brains go haywire
Edit: hiiii stamets
I love calling those sorts of people snowflakes. Gets em really riled up lul. Use their own terms against them. Out crazy them.
Same way hearing gay used as an insult would feel to a gay person, I would imagine. Only in this case there's the added layer of the straight person incurring cognitive dissonance. People respond to that in different ways, denial being one of them.
At least, that's what I came to the conclusion of when I was made aware of my behavior as a straight person. Instead of living in denial, though, I changed and banished using gay as an insult. Now I just dislike both.
Gay, Straight it’s all the same to me. I like a curvy soft body with not a lot of hair. Their downstairs bits matter not to me.
Do you use racism to fight racism too?
Of course! Theres only two things I hate, racism and koreans.
r/thathappened
First off, this isn't reddit. So you can drop the r nonsense.
Second, this happens on a pretty regular basis. Ask any gay person. This is pretty normal. Y'all straight people are really fucking fragile.
Like it's such a common thing that I have to believe the original is trolling
It's that or genuinely brainwashed lunatic. Their posting history leaves a lot of sanity to be desired.
Elon declared “cis” as in cis-gendered to be a hate term on Twitter.
That happened.
