... uh, um... "fake and gay"?

you don't talk about green texts

"It's not easy being green" /j

A woman.... CHOOSING???

Many women actually choose this lifestyle.

My GF used to be together with a guy close to 20 years oder than her. She wanted a mature man but ended up finding out the hard way that age does not necessarily corellate with maturity. He was a really immature, self-centered dickhead, from what she told me.

She's barely a year older than me.

Especially considering that Epstein had his hands in 4chan stuff.

"I read it on the internet"

"It had a frog cartoon on it and everything"

I'm amazed how well the 1/2+7 rule of thumb works, it seems like it shouldn't match up so well with the limits of what I see as acceptable

I have a very general rule. 25 and older are all fair game, no matter your age. Now, that's me. Someone can argue 23 is fine... Well, okay. 21 is my absolute hard limit for the general rule.

I never really understood that too. Then when i was like 35, i met this girl on tinder who was 26. I always thought she was just too young. But it was nice talking to her. Just before we met, she confessed that she was actually 22. I thought it was rude to just blow her off and we met anyway. And oh boy was it weird. It was likt hanging out with an actual child. We talk different, and she was really immature, but in a different way that i was, her stories were only interesting when you just finished school. The list goes on and on. The only upside was that i look really young and she looked older. I really started questioning people being into much younger people.

My mind is more like +21. 18 is a wee baby. Realistically after 25 it is truly irrelevant.

21-25 is the prime "people think they are in charge but lying to themselves" years and idk, easy to trick i suppose.

People like to criticize a power imbalance based on where someone is in life based off of age/maturity, because with age comes experience, and the argument is you can't have a fair and balanced relationship if the people aren't equal.

So i get that. But every aspect of society encourages it so it's kind of bullshit. In truth vurtually no relationship is 100% balanced in every way.

Someone a little older than the other? Power imbalance through life experience and maturity.

Someone a little wealthier than the other? Power imbalance through financial portfolio and personal solvency.

Someone a different race than the other? Power imbalance because of racial profiling in society, and how laws/grants/conditions may apply differently at home or abroad.

Someone healthier than the other? Power imbalance through healthcare needs medical liabilities.

Someone simply smarter than the other? Power imbalance because the smarter partner will naturally have an upper hand in the relationship.

Just because a relationship has imbalance doesn't means both people can't be into each other and take care of a joint life together.

If you are over 30 you should understand. I work with a lot of young people and their vulnerability is 100% obvious to anyone with a moral compass.

Sute they can be smart, witty and intelligent even tough but there is absolutely a power imbalance. I talk a lot with them and it is insane how much differnce there is between us and how much they trust us older people and believe us. It would be very easy to manipulate them, even on accident.

I am sure there are some relationships with a bigger gap that aren't predatory but in general it absolutely is a red flag.

It is OK to be uncomfortable about age gaps but don’t yuck anybody’s yum and let me have my agency

It's curious to see people who champion gender affirming care for 20 year olds suddenly get skittish when they find out 20 year olds might do other things with their genitals.

Like, are you an adult or aren't you?

I have feeling that platonic is not the right word for that unless you genuinely derive nothing sexual from it and just want to be bullied cause you hate yourself or something

Some States laws have a moving age of consent window for exactly this, because there were teenagers dating when I've would turn 18 and then they would become pedophiles because they kept on with their 16 year old girl/boyfriend.