How often have you heard, ‘male loneliness is one of the great social problems of our time’? It’s apparently behind the rightward shift all over the world.

And I’m so sick of people on here dismissing the issue. If it were treated with consideration, do you not think the world would be a better place?

We need to figure out who this male is. How is this guy creating so much havoc? SOMEONE suck his goddamn dick FFS. I’m hetero but I volunteer if he’s so inclined. I’ll suck him, I’ll fuck him, I’ll do anything. You all can keep complaining about the patriarchy but I’m a solutions first guy.

We can all relate to feeling lonely. This man wields an incomprehensible amount of power over the social fabric of human society, but he’s still human, and he deserves to know community, to feel love. Literally the only person who stands between capitalism and communism, and ‘leftists’ want to grandstand about being too good for him… this is the problem with the modern left.

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[–] 1 point 7 minutes ago

Lowkey I super duper hate patriarchal men who act like they're the victim and in crisis like this. Like, we're in the oppressor class! You're finally tasting smth like equality (not there yet) and it's making you go crazy LMAO. Jesus Mary and Joseph and all his little carpenter friends get a grip!

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  • [–] 3 points 6 hours ago (1 child)

    Meeting someone in person is hard for everyone, but the experience men and woman have on dating apps is very different.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 hours ago (1 child)

    oh for sure, after all women have to worry about whether or not the men will violently assault them or worse because it's not even remotely unlikely, statistically. it's much scarier for women.

    but of course i assume that's not what you're implying here.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (1 child)

    I'm implying both actually. I think they feed into each other. When men don't receive any sympathy, some turn to toxic communities that do. That makes woman less safe, and more men lonely. I think the point of OPs post, is that the left simply need acknowledge this. Even if one sides issues are worse, loneliness can be very painful.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 hours ago (1 child)

    OP's post is a bit about it being a singular male you dingus

    men are violent toward women because they hold a position of power over women in patriarchal society and are taught from a young age to dehumanize and objectify them. it has fuck all to do with a lack of sympathy, and the massive amounts of violence against women from men long pre-date this new age "erm actually men are poor smol bean victims" reddit-ass form of misogyny.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 hour ago*

    OP's post is a bit about it being a singular male you dingus

    Uh. That aside...

    I understand the patriarchy is ultimately to blame. I'm talking about people being pushed towards toxic masculine spaces. A man feeling lonely and disenfranchised from dating will find no sanctuary in leftist spaces should they try to express themselves. Alienated from the very group of people that would do the most to help make things better.

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  • [–] 4 points 7 hours ago

    SOMEONE suck his goddamn dick FFS. I’m hetero but I volunteer if he’s so inclined.

    you don't have to, there are PLENTY of men that will happily do it and for as long as he wants, but he's so redpilled that he'll always refuse. lol

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  • [–] 6 points 9 hours ago

    it's an everyone loneliness epidemic because of late stage capitalism they are trying to sell as oppression aimed at males.

    it's oppression aimed at poors.

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  • [–] 3 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

    (Tony Soprano voice) "I cant have thish convershation again..."

    (see my "Top All Time" comment (measly 72 upbears, im a pitiful wretch) (also i realize this is a joke post about succin d but idc))

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    Actually that's a misconception, it's mail loneliness. People aren't sending letters to each other anymore and it's really sad.

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    fedposting just post your address I'll totally send a letter

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  • [–] 32 points 18 hours ago* (1 child)

    I volunteer if he’s so inclined. I’ll suck him, I’ll fuck him, I’ll do anything.

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  • [–] 52 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

    On a serious note, male loneliness is bs because it is codeword for "I want a prostitute who is 24x7 available and also is my domestic maid" loneliness is experienced by literally everyone but no one talks about loneliness experienced by gay men, lesbian women, trans people, it is always the cis straight male.

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  • [–] 32 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

    male loneliness is bs because it is codeword for "I want a prostitute who is 24x7 available and also is my domestic maid"

    In the nicest way possible, no it isn't. Roughly 10-20% of the U$ population has zero close friends, slightly favoring women (I didn't find data on non-binary people, sorry!). Most reporting I can find (feel free to contradict with your own data) focuses on the lack of male-male friendships and the causes thereof, while the lack of dating or romantic experience is used as an example of the consequences. As the rates have been correlated for quite a while, I doubt gender-specific loneliness has fully specific causes that are not shared.

    CW: Self Harm/ Misogynist violenceReporting favors cis men both because media focuses on male problems, but also because they are much more likely to kill or harm themselves and others.

    Also, shockingly to hopefully no one here, poverty and disability correlate heavily with loneliness.

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  • [–] 30 points 19 hours ago (1 child)

    Right, there's a loneliness epidemic. The capitalists identify a thing they are doing to us, divide it along lines of gender, and sell it back to us, obscuring the class component.

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  • [–] 30 points 18 hours ago

    They destroyed and enclosed all the third spaces, all of civil society and all social relations that are not commercial in nature and now they have the audacity to blame feminists or cancel culture or whatever for the harm this is causing people.

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  • [–] 15 points 17 hours ago (1 child)

    I don't have any data to really contradict you, I am mainly talking about the rhetoric around it because major use of "male loneliness epidemic" as a phrase has been at least in my view, as a way to create and more traditionalist society where cis het men have access to sex and emotional labour of one person, their wife, at all times. I have never seen anywhere that people are talking about creating door to services like dropping pamphlets for neighbourhood game nights or local club activity, loneliness is a problem, gendering the rhetoric of loneliness (not saying that statistics are a lie but that calling the problem of loneliness as a particularly men's issue is bad faith) has been only to say "bring back the traditional system" I see people mainstream leftist podcasts talking about "back in the day the left over men who couldn't have a family were sent for exploration then they were sent for war, now we don't know what to do with them". There's never a conservation that maybe the focus on family alone and marriage alone as a source of companionship has been the reason for all the loneliness in the first place.

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  • [–] 6 points 13 hours ago (1 child)

    Even if you are right, the only thing you're arguing is about wrong solutions being attempted/wanted for the problem. The problem is still real and the people suffering deserve empathy.

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  • [–] 15 points 13 hours ago

    I never said that people struggling don't deserve empathy, I am saying that gendering an issue like that which is almost universal and is more pervasive along the lines like poverty, disability, neurodivergence should be dealt without gendering it in this way.

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  • [–] 38 points 20 hours ago (1 child)

    skill issue, you can always take the vaccine for that (estrogen)

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  • [–] 35 points 20 hours ago (5 children)

    Male Loneliness can be solved if you aren't too much of a chud to think going to the movies alone or bothering your similarly-aged friends who aren't in relationships/don't have kids yet to come hang with you is too much effort. How do I know this? I'm an eternal bachelor in4 my 30s and will like, at least once a month, buy one of my single friends a ticket to some indie show or movie just so they are forced to hang out with me (even if all we do is meet at the movie theater and watch the movie & maybe chat on the way out!!!)

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  • [–] 10 points 16 hours ago (1 child)

    Hell yeah, that's the spirit! I've combined my dislike for exercise with this type of socialising by inviting friends to go play disc golf or shoot some basketball and rarely go swimming, lazy but fun sports :)

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  • [–] 4 points 10 hours ago

    obama-spike me sending "we should go bowling dean-smile" to the groupchat every like 4-5 months and getting a bunch of laugh reacts & "we're not retired ABC, ask again in 30 years and I'll be down" responses

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    [–] 27 points 20 hours ago

    I tried talking to him, but he called me an aura mogger, then kept winking at me from across the room.

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  • [–] 39 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

    It's me. I am the lonely male omelas child. Omelas, of course, being an anagram for "so male".

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    [–] 48 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

    You had me going for a sec

    Well done

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    [–] 17 points 19 hours ago*

    God fucking damn it I am dumb I took the bait

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  • [–] 27 points 21 hours ago (1 child)

    Honestly I just think his opinions on Cowboy Bebop are unacceptable and I'd prefer that he die alone.

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