How often have you heard, ‘male loneliness is one of the great social problems of our time’? It’s apparently behind the rightward shift all over the world.

And I’m so sick of people on here dismissing the issue. If it were treated with consideration, do you not think the world would be a better place?

We need to figure out who this male is. How is this guy creating so much havoc? SOMEONE suck his goddamn dick FFS. I’m hetero but I volunteer if he’s so inclined. I’ll suck him, I’ll fuck him, I’ll do anything. You all can keep complaining about the patriarchy but I’m a solutions first guy.

We can all relate to feeling lonely. This man wields an incomprehensible amount of power over the social fabric of human society, but he’s still human, and he deserves to know community, to feel love. Literally the only person who stands between capitalism and communism, and ‘leftists’ want to grandstand about being too good for him… this is the problem with the modern left.

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[–] 33 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

male loneliness is bs because it is codeword for "I want a prostitute who is 24x7 available and also is my domestic maid"

In the nicest way possible, no it isn't. Roughly 10-20% of the U$ population has zero close friends, slightly favoring women (I didn't find data on non-binary people, sorry!). Most reporting I can find (feel free to contradict with your own data) focuses on the lack of male-male friendships and the causes thereof, while the lack of dating or romantic experience is used as an example of the consequences. As the rates have been correlated for quite a while, I doubt gender-specific loneliness has fully specific causes that are not shared.

CW: Self Harm/ Misogynist violenceReporting favors cis men both because media focuses on male problems, but also because they are much more likely to kill or harm themselves and others.

Also, shockingly to hopefully no one here, poverty and disability correlate heavily with loneliness.

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  • [–] 31 points 21 hours ago (1 child)

    Right, there's a loneliness epidemic. The capitalists identify a thing they are doing to us, divide it along lines of gender, and sell it back to us, obscuring the class component.

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  • [–] 31 points 20 hours ago

    They destroyed and enclosed all the third spaces, all of civil society and all social relations that are not commercial in nature and now they have the audacity to blame feminists or cancel culture or whatever for the harm this is causing people.

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  • [–] 15 points 19 hours ago (1 child)

    I don't have any data to really contradict you, I am mainly talking about the rhetoric around it because major use of "male loneliness epidemic" as a phrase has been at least in my view, as a way to create and more traditionalist society where cis het men have access to sex and emotional labour of one person, their wife, at all times. I have never seen anywhere that people are talking about creating door to services like dropping pamphlets for neighbourhood game nights or local club activity, loneliness is a problem, gendering the rhetoric of loneliness (not saying that statistics are a lie but that calling the problem of loneliness as a particularly men's issue is bad faith) has been only to say "bring back the traditional system" I see people mainstream leftist podcasts talking about "back in the day the left over men who couldn't have a family were sent for exploration then they were sent for war, now we don't know what to do with them". There's never a conservation that maybe the focus on family alone and marriage alone as a source of companionship has been the reason for all the loneliness in the first place.

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  • [–] 7 points 15 hours ago (1 child)

    Even if you are right, the only thing you're arguing is about wrong solutions being attempted/wanted for the problem. The problem is still real and the people suffering deserve empathy.

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  • [–] 15 points 15 hours ago

    I never said that people struggling don't deserve empathy, I am saying that gendering an issue like that which is almost universal and is more pervasive along the lines like poverty, disability, neurodivergence should be dealt without gendering it in this way.

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