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[-] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago

It's very interesting to have the view of a women that has transitioned to a men on the feeling side of things. I wonder how the transition is actually affecting his current relationship.

My experience as a man does look like what he talks about however, it's not as crazy as he is saying. His depiction of manhood feels almost satire to me. Almost all of my interaction with men, I feel safe enough to talk about my problems, my feelings and my opinions on things, both personal or not.

Although, I am me and I do not represent all other men, It's not untrue that men are lead to believe that they must be the one to shut up and provide for their community/family. Shut up and die for your family, you country. Shut up and do what you have to do. If you really do that, I think you just end up lonely, sad and probably really suicidal.

[-] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago

it's not as crazy as he is saying. His depiction of manhood feels almost satire to me. Almost all of my interaction with men, I feel safe enough to talk about my problems, my feelings and my opinions on things, both personal or not.

It's spot on for me. 9/10 times I open up to other men, it's either diminished, insulted, or ignored. I count 4 friends who've actually listened to me. 1 ghosted me some time later. 1 listened rarely, only after I listened to him for hours. The other 2 are true chads and I wish life hadn't separated us.

When I open up to women, it's either insulted or saved and later used against me as manipulation.

I just don't anymore. Only people I talk to are therapists.

[-] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago

well, women also get more attention therefor they are less lonely. Just look at dating apps: women get flooded with likes and messages, but men... good luck getting a like and if you get one, good luck getting a conversation where you are not the only one putting some effort.

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[-] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago

The comments at the bottom of the article though... I really hate people sometimes.

[-] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago

Oof they are awful, and indicative of the issues raised in the article. So many of the men commenting are defending the "man" stereotype as "natural", and ignoring that men have issues existing in society probably because of the pressures of that stereotype. Nobody wants men to feel isolated and lonely and kill themselves 4x as much. I don't think that's a "natural" part of being a man. At least it doesn't have to be.

[-] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago

And than they turn around and blame feminism for all the problems men face.

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[-] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago

I wonder if this is one of the reasons why MTF vastly outnumber FTM transitions

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[-] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago

TIL my friendships with my bros are about 5x healthier than average.

I read this thought it sounded super melodramatic and exaggerated. I guess it’s just more rare to have deep friendships with the boys. Looking back it got me thinking that I might be the weird one with friends that have deep conversations and know/worry about the others mental health.

So i guess, to any guys that read this and felt like it could have been written about them: go out on a limb and talk to your friends. Chances are they want/need a more meaningful friendship too. They are also probably similarly apprehensive about opening up.

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[-] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago

I'm mtf, being a woman made my life much much easier

[-] [email protected] -1 points 2 years ago

Am I only the only one who thinks comes off like "men arent like women, and therefore broken"?

Not having to spend an hour discussing my feelings is actually one of the things I like about my friendships. I don't want long deep hugs, they make me uncomfortable. And I definitely don't want someone opening up to me about their life struggles. That's not the kind of friendship I like or want.

I guess that makes me broken!

[-] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago

Not quite. To me, it’s more like “men don’t even have the option of building relationships like women do, and that’s not healthy. Society is broken.”

[-] [email protected] -1 points 2 years ago

But they didn't say that. They flat out said "men are broken".

[-] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago

You seem to have stopped reading once you got through the headline and missed the entire article written afterwards.

[-] [email protected] -1 points 2 years ago

Surely you have something more constructive to say than a sneering quip?

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