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[–] 82 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Wasn't that the app that leaked a massive database of women's IDs?

Just checked, it happened twice. https://consumerrights.wiki/w/Tea_Dating_Advice

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  • [–] 45 points 1 month ago (6 children)

    I don't care. Why would you want to be with a woman who isn't accepting of pop culture?

    Even grandmas play Pokemon Go GTFO of here.

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    [–] 35 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    The data these women are spilling on men is outrageous, they’re putting up full names, birthdays, photos that often identify addresses and making claims that are straight up defamatory.

    It needs to be shut down as the users have no right to be sharing others information in this way.

    Before anyone throws around accusations I’m married and I’m not featured on this disgusting app.

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  • [–] 18 points 1 month ago

    If men did the same thing to women, people would have a much different reaction.

    And I get that sexism makes it completely reasonable for women to act differently and/or defend themselves but that's not what this is.

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  • [–] 29 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Imagine this app existing for the opposite sex.

    How is this even implemented? How do you keep a certain sex off of the app? Especially trans people, what do they do with them? And non-binary people too.

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  • [–] 21 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Rage bait. Yes, the app is creepy, but the first actual quote the article gives is in this paragraph:

    And then there’s the phrase. Post after post across the app uses some version of the same line: “he collects women like Pokémon cards.”

    None of the quotes truly support the headline, imo.

    Also, that app is creepy af and should probably be illegal on privacy grounds.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago

    Yeah, that part really shows the entire methodology of the article is bullshit.

    And then there’s the phrase. Post after post across the app uses some version of the same line: “he collects women like Pokémon cards.” That’s not a joke somebody made once. That’s the app’s house insult, used so often it might as well ship with the keyboard. The man on the receiving end doesn’t even have to play. You could have never touched a card in your life and still catch this one.

    They're proving that this instance of a negative mention of Pokemon doesn't even have to do with someone being interested in the hobby which is the entire premise of the article. But they never mention filtering for this, and then just go on to say that liking Pokemon is the worst hobby stats wise. Not that I'm expecting perfect methodology for something like this, but this is a pretty fucking glaring issue they even openly admit but somehow don't see the problem with it.

    Saying someone collects women like Pokemon cards is just an insult about someone being a player, it doesn't have anything to do with someone's hobbies. It could easily be said as collecting women like any other commonly collected item.

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  • [–] 17 points 1 month ago (1 child)
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    Pokemon - ✅

    Pokemon TCG reselling - 🚩

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  • [–] 16 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    Is there a dating app just for geeks and nerds? Easy as hell to find like-minded men; I haven't talked to any like-minded women since high school. I don't really like hanging out with super serious people. They never laugh at my jokes.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 child)

    https://alovoa.com/

    It has an fdroid application and their whole thing is about being open source and ad free, so I assume the people using it are one of us

    https://f-droid.org/packages/com.alovoa.expo/

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    the app is a waste of time, fails to create an account but you can on the website. then fails to log in.

    stick to the website and create a webapp for it

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  • [–] 13 points 1 month ago* (14 children)

    The app is women-only. If you’re a man, you can’t download it, can’t search it, and can’t respond to anything on it.

    So ... what's stopping men from setting up a burner device, pretending to be a woman, and using the app?

    Hell, for that matter, it would probably be very beneficial to set up some sock-puppet accounts to post glowing 'green flag' reviews of yourself.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago (11 children)

    I guess, if you're that into the waspish drama-queens that gossip more than breathe, sure. Got a thing for Karens, Jessicas, et al?

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  • [–] 13 points 1 month ago (10 children)

    It would be really nice if this could exist without being petty. I dated a guy who lied to me about having been in jail for nearly two decades for beating his mother to death, and I would love to be able to warn others about him. I have a google alert set up for his name and got a ping a few years ago that he was arrested for violating a restraining order taken out by the woman he dated after me and felt awful that I wasn’t able to warn her.

    It’s both predictable and annoying that people are using it to be petty, but the concept is still useful, even if some use it in a way I find shallow. I don’t think it’s wild to imagine that some women would see this report and take it as a green flag. I met up with my husband for the first time after we matched on a dating app to play magic the gathering with him, so I know that some women look for nerds when dating. I previously went on a date with a different guy to play magic (I like seeing how someone plays, wins, and loses, plus it’s a low pressure first date activity that helps ease conversation), and he showed me his Khorne tattoo. He said he just really identified with the character when I asked why he had chosen Khorne, and I absolutely took that as a red flag, not because it’s nerdy, but because I don’t want to date someone who identifies with Khorne.

    I would 100% support a twin app for men about women, to be clear, and I don’t know what the solution would be for non cishetero dating, but I wouldn’t be against any of them.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago (5 children)

    Show me a reality where it doesn't devolve into a platform for stalking.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago (4 children)

    I can see that, and if this were the only way for people to look up a member of the public without them having created a public profile, I wouldn’t support it. It would be much easier to stalk someone through the websites where you can input a phone number and get all the associated addresses and additional contact information, though. In jurisdictions where those are allowed, I think the information shared on this type of platform is much less useful for stalking and more useful for legitimate purposes.

    Although I would be curious about how a platform like this would work legally in a jurisdiction with solid privacy laws.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    I’m not sure how to do it in a way that can’t be abused, sadly. My instinct is that maybe domestic violence (DV) crimes should be public knowledge - i.e. offenders, offences and sentences (but not victim information) should be on a publicly searchable database - but I’m not sure what unintended consequences there might be to this. My gut tells me that women reporting DV might experience more backlash from violent partners because reporting the DV puts the offender on a ‘list’, and that maybe it could encourage some abusers to vexatiously make false accusations to try to get someone on the list, but I don’t know how likely either of those would be. There’s not a simple solution, but we need to keep searching for the difficult solution because the status quo leads to way too many women dying at the hands of current or former partners.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago (1 child)

    In my country, an influencer set up such a website. Posts are manually reviewed and will link to the conviction decision. You can post domestic violence and sexual abuse perpetrators who have been committed. The court decisions are actually public data anyway, just a bit annoying to search.

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  • Now, to fix the court system so that certain people don't file a DV claim to fuck with someone, knowing full well it'll get thrown out at best, but without any blowback on the perpetrator. 🤢

    The system is not made for serving any of us —it was designed to incarcerate our population in record numbers, and with impunity.

    ACAB, the whole way up.

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    [–] 6 points 1 month ago

    shit attracts shit nothing new here.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago (9 children)

    Type of girl that uses this app is not one im interested in, none of my friends do, their tea app is their gcs and it's prob more effective

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    I'm old so maybe not relevant, but I think all those dating apps are stupid.

    One, the dating app provider doesn't want you to find a match because you'd stop using the app, they want endless engagent.

    Two, I hear my younger coworkers and youth say they couldn't find a match, because none of them were good looking enough. So all the suggestions they ignored based on a picture. This really isn't how you find a good life partner, this skips interaction and personality connections that you get in live encounters.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago

    It's not a dating app, its for like exposing men and talking about it, only woman can join and its id verified, but all the woman ik discuss all that amongst themselves and don't need an app, they already have community. I guess it is for ppl who sleep with strangers using those apps? idk, will never be my problem lol.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago*

    this skips interaction and personality connections that you get in live encounters.

    See, the problem is that those people aren't going out enough to interact with strangers. Men are increasingly unlikely to make a move because there's both the fear of rejection and the fear of an overreaction.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    If you’re a man, you can’t download it,

    How does that work?

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