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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/the51m3n on 2026-07-02 11:40:27+00:00.
So this weekend, me (36M) and my wife (34), together with some friends and family, are going to this local festival on Saturday. My wife's mom (WM) was going to babysit our kids.
A couple of days ago, one of my wife's friends, suddenly told her she couldn't make it, and said that if we know anyone willing to buy her ticket, let her know. WM has apparently been wanting to go forever, but couldn't get tickets, so my wife asked me if I could ask my mom to step in as babysitter instead, so WM could join us. I said 'no problem', and phoned my mom.
She said that she would be happy to babysit, but also let me know that she feels like it's kind of wrong of WM to ditch babysitting. My mom is a very firm believer in the whole "if you make an appointment with someone, you can't ditch it just because something 'better' comes along", which I absolutely agree with, I just didn't really see this situation as that, I guess.
For the fuck up: I told my wife that my mom said that. I contemplated not saying anything, but, I don't know, I figured it might come up sooner or later, or that I might become a problem down the line if something similar were to happen, so I thought it was better to play it straight.
Wife got really hurt and sad, and told me she now is going to think twice about asking my mom to babysit from now on. I told her that babysitting is absolutely not going to be a problem, that I'm sorry I said anything, and that I was dumb for doing so. I also didn't know WM was that keen on going, my wife told me after the fuck up, and obviously didn't convey that info to my mom. I'm honestly really scared that I've partially ruined the relationship between my wife and mom, and it really breaks my heart. I feel absolutely miserable about it. Both for my wife, and mother.
Tl;dr: told my wife that my mom thinks her mom made a bad decision, by swapping babysitting for a festival. Wife might now resent my mom a little bit.