Men lost at sea for 29 days say it "was a nice break" from reality. A user replied "Men would rather be lost at sea for 29 days than go to therapy."

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[–] 140 points 5 months ago (7 children)

Sounds more like a break from a crushing capitalist system.

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  • [–] 28 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    The comment says a lot about what some people think therapy is for, too.

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  • [–] 13 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    Therapy can be pretty good at understanding you are not a walking problem, which is where many people are at

    But it can't help with competition- and capitalism- induced suffering :(

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  • [–] 11 points 5 months ago

    As a man who both goes to therapy and enjoys wandering in the back country for no purpose but to be in nature, they’re two useful actions that meet different needs. A therapist one trusts can meet the need of putting your struggles into words, even your most troubling ones that you are embarrassed to share with the people closest to you, or possibly involve those close to you but need help figuring out how to address with them.

    Wandering through nature alone is perspective, and disconnection from the noise of humanity. Nature is vast, whether endless ocean to the horizon or never ending mountain ranges as far as you can see. The sound of waves or birds, insects, and a river are quiet compared to the hum of electricity, cars, machines, and people we’re so inundated with that we forget it’s unnatural until we’re away from it. Sense of smell might be our weakest sense but in nature you realize how unclean what we breathe daily really is.

    Also, let’s not pretend that escaping civilization and embracing the isolation of nature is something only men enjoy.

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    [–] 86 points 5 months ago (9 children)

    Therapy doesn't fix reality.

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  • [–] 9 points 5 months ago (7 children)

    I mean for some it can help them accept and process reality a little better.

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  • [–] 12 points 5 months ago (6 children)

    it is no sign of good health to be properly adapted to a profoundly sick society

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  • [–] 6 points 5 months ago (4 children)

    It helps to survive. You can still critizice the fucked system while suffering less from it. Often that's the best one can do.

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    [–] 42 points 5 months ago (6 children)

    Dude was out at sea for a month and tried to find a positive from it and peeps decided to be sexist about it

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    [–] 42 points 5 months ago (12 children)

    Therapy won't make the world they have to go back to any better than it was before.

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  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago (7 children)

    Yeah, wtf does therapy even do? My brain is fucked because of the reality of my situation not because I have some dysfunctional mindset I need to work through. It's all external factors. Having to grind away at a job I hate just to scrape by while everything continues to get more expensive, billionaires burning the world, and our government falls to fascists is fucking hell. You'd have to be crazy not to have a fucked up mentality. Am I supposed to spend even more money I don't have just to talk about my problems?

    Alternatively being able to completely disconnect from all this shit for a month where I have no choice but to simply focus on survival sounds pretty great.

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  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago (6 children)

    Therapy is mostly about meditation, coping strategies, and self-improvement.

    I think you might balk at the suggestion of developing coping strategies at all, but this:

    being able to completely disconnect from all this shit for a month

    Is a coping strategy. It doesn't really fix anything, but it does help you manage stress. I assume you can't take a month off, so therapy would say, "Okay, what's a second idea."

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  • [–] 39 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    Being lost at sea for 30 days is the therapy

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  • [–] 38 points 5 months ago (14 children)

    Is therapy really that good? I know lots of folks that have been to therapy. They’re still shit.

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  • [–] 26 points 5 months ago (4 children)

    I went to therapy and found a bunch of NEW things that I was (successfully) suppressing.

    I PAID to have MORE problems. I can't afford ME.

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    I know that I have a lot of problems. A therapy bill will just be one more and it’s not going to undo the previous problems.

    Understanding how and why I’m fucked up is not the same as not being fucked up.

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  • [–] 4 points 5 months ago

    But it's a step towards being able to (hopefully) process and better live with your issues. It never claimed to magically fix everything in your life, it's trying to get you to a point where you're equipped to fix/handle it yourself.

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  • [–] 12 points 5 months ago

    I don't think it's just as simple as going to therapy but I've been in therapy for years and I'm the happiest I've ever been. I really got to work through stuff that I had been dealing with for years. I think it's hard to figure it out on your own, but I don't think a therapist is the only thing you need.

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    [–] 32 points 5 months ago* (1 child)

    Going to therapy?

    ... in this economy and healthcare system?

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    [–] 31 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    The sea doesn't bill by the hour.

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    [–] 13 points 5 months ago* (2 children)

    I have been and still am in therapy for a couple of years now. I would still like to be lost at sea to get such a break. (Provided I can easily survive that.)

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    [–] 11 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    Tbh that does sound kind of nice right about now.

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  • [–] 11 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    I'm in therapy and I'd still like a month away on a remotely uninhabited island.

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    [–] 11 points 5 months ago* (4 children)

    I think the point is that the reality of the world is currently shit and it sucks so it was nice to forget about that for a bit. It wasn't that he had some trauma he could ignore.

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    I love the sea. Its the most peaceful thing we have on this planet.

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  • [–] 6 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    Even storms are beautiful to me. When not in a boat. :)

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  • [–] 4 points 5 months ago

    i remember when i was like 8 years old and at a boat while there was a storm outside. it was the beautiful kind of scary, the moment where you start thinking "ok whatever happens, i can't change it, so i might as well vibe with the situation".

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  • [–] 7 points 4 months ago

    Anybody would rather be lost at sea for 29 days than be forced to participate in a rigged economy

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  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago

    The irony is that living stranded on an island is a return to reality, not an escape from it.

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  • [–] 5 points 5 months ago

    Yes. Yes, I would...

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  • yeah, its a shame we got lost. Luckily we had plenty of fuel.

    Got em!

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