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[–] 153 points 4 months ago (3 children)

Yes, women can be lesbians.

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  • [–] 46 points 4 months ago (3 children)

    About a third of all trans women are as a matter of fact

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  • [–] 35 points 4 months ago (3 children)

    Trans is their sexual identity and lesbian is their sexual preference. They are not mutually exclusive.

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    [–] 25 points 4 months ago (3 children)

    If born on the island of Lesbos then, yes, definitely… if born somewhere else then the answer to this question might depend on where you get your definition of words.

    Love is love, whatever, but sometimes labels can do damage.

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  • [–] 12 points 4 months ago

    Trans status is about gender identity; gay/lesbian/bisexual is about sexual orientation.

    So, a trans woman (MtF) who likes women is a lesbian, because she identifies as a woman who likes women. Her sex identified at birth is not considered a legitimate factor. Likewise, a trans woman (MtF) who likes men is not a gay man, she is a straight woman.

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    they call it a transbian

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  • [–] 9 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Transgender women are women.

    Women who love women exclusively are lesbians.

    So, yes.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago

    Slight correction: the contemporaneous usage of the word lesbian in the queer community does not specifically say it is wlw, but that it is femme/non-masculine attraction to femininity/non-masculinity. In that sense it may be more closely aligned with being sapphic than strictly wlw.

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    Yeah- if women love other women you’d typically call that lesbian coded.

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  • [–] 7 points 4 months ago

    Can women be lesbian 🤔

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  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    The Ancient Pact of the Covenant allows it.

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  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago* (4 children)

    Sex, gender, expression, and orientation are separate dimensions and can vary independently. While there is coupling and correlation, they are distinct

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (3 children)

    "lesbian" inherently couples gender identity and sexual preference, no? Language and identity are certainly malleable, but it would be news to me than "lesbian" got the "gay" treatment (where the meaning did change from "homosexual man" to "homosexual or bisexual", depending on the social circle).

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago*

    And even within that, T4T is a common preference categorization as well, whether it's for inherent attraction or just practical reasons. There are terms that prefer solely to the target gender so for instance I'm androphilic (vs gynophilic) mostly in my romantic aspect. I don't mind both sexually, I've just found women's personalities to be difficult to deal with / have difficulty dealing with me romantically (practical preference). Now, gender wise I'm roughly here:

    ♀️<----------|×--------->♂️

    And my visual preference for a partner is about

    ♀️<------|---|------|---->♂️

    And my personality preference is about

    ♀️<---------||---|------>♂️

    so really CAN I be gay? Especially if I was right on the line there. I will say hubs seems to prefer roughly (in both aspects):

    ♀️<--|-------|-----|---->♂️

    which is pretty neatly bisexual.

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  • Yes cuddling with my gf right now

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    [–] 3 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Do I have to get a divorce if it comes out that the answer is no?

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