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The original was posted on /r/tifu by /u/Past-Afternoon-9595 on 2026-05-06 04:54:29+00:00.

Hi. this is a last resort effort for outside input, all names have been altered for privacy of all parties. I Quinn (23F) have a friend Rachel (24f) who copies everything that I do. It sounds weird to type out because I have been in denial about this situation for a little over 3 years. I met Rachel through mutual friends in college. We went on little trips here, and there and we get along okay in the present day it is hard for me to look back and not see her taking notes every time we were with each other.

The copying started with random things like asking where I got my clothes from, jewelry, perfume, furniture etc. (not at once but slowly I realized she was becoming more and more interested with the things that I am doing) Fast forward to present day and she is posting the exact same things as me on social media (after I post mine) and saying things like, "Woah Quinn I was about to use that same caption, and same photos for my post now I can't post it anymore" or "I was on blank website and you bought the dress that I wanted" (I have never discussed buying things to her).

I am leaving a few things out for privacy reasons but just imagine a friend looking at your location, asking where you are, taking up your hobbies that are extremely unique to you, and copying your exact posts etc.

Birdwatching, I go bird watching twice a week with a local group from a nursing home that my grandmother who has Alzheimer's is at and it has become one of my favorite hobbies (she doesn't remember me but its a way that I try to make that connection with her weekly).

We live in Texas so the birding community varies depending on where you live. The only reason Rachel knows that I do this is because we have a mutual friend Sue who knows my birding schedule. I do not post/take picture about this hobby of mine on social media for privacy of the residents of the home!! So today as I pulled into the parking lot of the home. I saw Rachels car and her outside of it taking what looks like a photo of the location and some videos for "content".

I hate being possessive about things but this is the one thing that I do that brings me complete peace. So when I saw her I tried to keep it lowkey but I couldn't help myself. I walked directly toward her and said,"what are you doing here" and she looked me dead in my face and said,"oh Hi Quinn, I am so glad to hear YOU decided to start bird watching too...". I was fed up with it so I looked at her back and said "what the actual fuck is your problem, lets take another picture but this time I shove your camera so far up your ass it might find your brain!" and walked away. She had this look in her eyes like she was almost satisfied that I reacted so poorly.

I talked to my friends/family that are not connected to any of this because one I feel like an asshole for what I said but after 3 years of what has been going on I have had enough of pretending to be flattered by this and two I am embarrassed as hell I said the thing I said because it a makes no sense.When I tell people the story and with detail I get three responses.

1. "Copying is the highest form of flattery!!"
2. "She might be in love with you."
3. "Its time
4. "This is really not okay/you need to cut off contact completely"

I feel like a bitch for reacting the way I did but I can't tell if my actions were justified.

TL;DR I’ve been dealing for years with a friend who copies my clothes, interests, social media posts, and even shows up in personal spaces using information I didn’t directly share. When she came to my private birdwatching spot and acted like I was copying her, I finally snapped and now I’m questioning whether my reaction was justified.