"Hey! You bike is getting stolen!"
Is it true - yes. Is it helpful - to the owner, yes; to the thief, no. Is it inspiring - no, not really.
Okay, let's stay silent.
It's just a joke, don't kill me.
"Hey! You bike is getting stolen!"
Is it true - yes. Is it helpful - to the owner, yes; to the thief, no. Is it inspiring - no, not really.
Okay, let's stay silent.
It's just a joke, don't kill me.
The one problem with this strategy is that it leaves the space full of people who don't follow this acronym to say a ton of shit.
That's not a problem with this strategy. There's always gonna be people around who talk a lot of shit, we can still try to improve ourselves and how we interact with others.
Anecdotally, it can be contagious.
I live in one of those most dangerous towns in my country. We have a Facebook group where people will proudly act really nasty toward each other.
One time someone was mean to me and it was unwarranted. I think anyone wouldn’t’ve blamed me if I called her out.
I can be nasty myself. A lot. ESPECIALLY if I’m being attacked. But I’m trying to work on it.
For whatever reason, in this situation I happened to remember that I’m trying to work on it. And as badly as I wanted to be the bigger bitch, I chose to be the bigger person and I chose to respond with kindness. And I felt like shit. And I felt mad that I wasn’t “defending” myself.
It caused a chain reaction that I’ve never seen in this town. People were hopping into the replies also offering kindness to this person.
This was awhile ago and I still feel great about it. Which is another benefit.
You’re way more likely to regret being mean than you are to regret being kind.
Could someone misinterpret what I am saying?
Well that's Lemmy fucked.
This is pretty useless, mostly because assholes will never put effort into not being assholes.
While this is good advice it only addresses the sender's perspective of communication. What's missing is how to deal with people who communicate with malicious intent. You'll wear yourself out quickly on social media if you don't learn how to protect yourself against that, and "THINK" is only half of the equation
Idk, sometimes you gotta get right up in people's faces and be really annoying, make them think about stuff they don't want to, disrupt all that peace and harmony create tension and force them to confront internal contradictions. Be like a mosquito.
Or should I say, a gadfly.
There will always be people (some humans and many politicians) who actively leverage an advantage. They get power IF wider society doesn't follow these principles as best we can. In other words, a shitty world grows shittier people, leading to a shittier world. Break the cycle.
I think there are some tough and impolite conversations worth having. It's the foundation of a healthy friendship. We're all learning how to be better people day by day.
idk if it's just me but "think before you speak" just triggers me.
it's what my dad used to yell at me (and pepper with calling me an idiot) when I was 8 and he had no patience with my questions and he hated the way i think and am.
And then you always miss your moment to contribute to the conversation (cue "you're always so quiet").
Why did you just stand there while that brick chimney collapsed on top of that family?
I was trying to come up with something inspirational!!
Then Hhw do you tell someone their bad idea is bad?
Helpful is the same as necessary and inspiring is the same as kind and true-kind-necessary is a more efficient and well known saying.
My personal saying to accompany it is
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