I really liked this graphic that I found here: https://www.thecoachingtoolscompany.com/think-acronym-for-kinder-and-more-effective-communications/

But it’s not the only source for the THINK acronym. This source claims it was created to reduce online bullying, but I believe the idea, and probably the acronym, have been around much longer than that.

Why YSK: we can all benefit from improving our communication skills, and this is one easy way to do that. I think a lot of us want to be kind, and this can help us better achieve that goal. It’s helped me a lot!

A graphic to explain the THINK acronym. In large white capital letters, it says “BEFORE YOU SPEAK”. It then vertically has the word THINK. For the letter T, it asks, “IS IT TRUE? Is this fact or is it really an opinion or feeling? Know & be clear before you speak.” For the letter H, it says, “IS IT HELPFUL? Does it help you, them or the situation?“ For I, it says, “IS IT INSPIRING? Also, does it IMPROVE on the silence?“ For N, it says, “IS IT NECESSARY? Would this be better left unsaid?“ For K, it says, “IS IT KIND? What is your motivation for communicating?” Next to the text, it shows an illustrated white person with a speech bubble, and a black person with a thought bubble. Below this section, the text reads, “ Did you know that the THINK acronym. was created to help people be kinder on Social Media? Well, it applies to everyday communications too - whether we're talking to work colleagues, family, friends, children or our partner!” Another section is below this. It says “OTHER HELPFUL QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER INCLUDE:” and it shows different illustrated characters with speech bubbles that include the questions, which are, “ Am I saying this from a place of anger? Am I being respectful?” “ Who is my audience? Who else might be able to hear, see or read this?” “How might what I'm saying appear to others?” “Could someone misinterpret what I'm saying?” “ What am I saying about myself with these words?”

all 32 comments

sorted by: hot top controversial new old
[–] 51 points 4 months ago (5 children)

"Hey! You bike is getting stolen!"

Is it true - yes. Is it helpful - to the owner, yes; to the thief, no. Is it inspiring - no, not really.

Okay, let's stay silent.

It's just a joke, don't kill me.

  • source
  • hideshow 5 child comments
  • [–] 8 points 4 months ago

    "Your bike is getting stolen" might be uninspiring, but talking about how uninspiring that example is is definitely uninspiring too. However, this comment talking about how uninspiring your comment was is also uninspiring. But if anybody calls me out on it, that would probably be uninspiring too.

  • source
  • parent
  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago*

    "Hey! You bike is getting stolen!"

    Is it true - yes. Is it helpful - to the owner, yes; to the thief, no. Is it inspiring - no, not really.

    Okay, let's stay silent.

    It's just a joke, don't kill me.

    Is it true ? No

    Is it helpful ? I guess it’s the top comment so yes

    Is it inspiring ? Well is it now nullify3112 ?

    Is it necessary ? I would argue, is anything necessary?

    Is it kind? Absolutely

  • source
  • parent
  • [–] 32 points 4 months ago (4 children)

    The one problem with this strategy is that it leaves the space full of people who don't follow this acronym to say a ton of shit.

  • source
  • hideshow 4 child comments
  • [–] 10 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    That's not a problem with this strategy. There's always gonna be people around who talk a lot of shit, we can still try to improve ourselves and how we interact with others.

  • source
  • parent
  • hideshow 2 child comments
  • [–] [S] 7 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Anecdotally, it can be contagious.

    I live in one of those most dangerous towns in my country. We have a Facebook group where people will proudly act really nasty toward each other.

    One time someone was mean to me and it was unwarranted. I think anyone wouldn’t’ve blamed me if I called her out.

    I can be nasty myself. A lot. ESPECIALLY if I’m being attacked. But I’m trying to work on it.

    For whatever reason, in this situation I happened to remember that I’m trying to work on it. And as badly as I wanted to be the bigger bitch, I chose to be the bigger person and I chose to respond with kindness. And I felt like shit. And I felt mad that I wasn’t “defending” myself.

    It caused a chain reaction that I’ve never seen in this town. People were hopping into the replies also offering kindness to this person.

    This was awhile ago and I still feel great about it. Which is another benefit.

    You’re way more likely to regret being mean than you are to regret being kind.

  • source
  • parent
  • hideshow 1 child comment
  • [–] 24 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Could someone misinterpret what I am saying?

    Well that's Lemmy fucked.

  • source
  • hideshow 1 child comment
  • [–] 11 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    This is pretty useless, mostly because assholes will never put effort into not being assholes.

  • source
  • hideshow 2 child comments
  • [–] 9 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    While this is good advice it only addresses the sender's perspective of communication. What's missing is how to deal with people who communicate with malicious intent. You'll wear yourself out quickly on social media if you don't learn how to protect yourself against that, and "THINK" is only half of the equation

  • source
  • hideshow 2 child comments
  • [–] 7 points 4 months ago

    “Inspiring?”

    Stfu unless you’re an influencer, I guess?

  • source
  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago

    Idk, sometimes you gotta get right up in people's faces and be really annoying, make them think about stuff they don't want to, disrupt all that peace and harmony create tension and force them to confront internal contradictions. Be like a mosquito.

    Or should I say, a gadfly.

  • source
  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago

    There will always be people (some humans and many politicians) who actively leverage an advantage. They get power IF wider society doesn't follow these principles as best we can. In other words, a shitty world grows shittier people, leading to a shittier world. Break the cycle.

  • source
  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

    I think there are some tough and impolite conversations worth having. It's the foundation of a healthy friendship. We're all learning how to be better people day by day.

  • source
  • [–] 5 points 4 months ago

    idk if it's just me but "think before you speak" just triggers me.

    it's what my dad used to yell at me (and pepper with calling me an idiot) when I was 8 and he had no patience with my questions and he hated the way i think and am.

  • source
  • [–] 4 points 4 months ago

    And then you always miss your moment to contribute to the conversation (cue "you're always so quiet").

  • source
  • [–] 4 points 4 months ago*

    Why did you just stand there while that brick chimney collapsed on top of that family?

    I was trying to come up with something inspirational!!

  • source
  • [–] 3 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    Then Hhw do you tell someone their bad idea is bad?

  • source
  • hideshow 2 child comments
  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago

    Tis it true m'lord?

  • source
  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

    Helpful is the same as necessary and inspiring is the same as kind and true-kind-necessary is a more efficient and well known saying.

    My personal saying to accompany it is

    • Shoot for at least 2
    • Don't say things that aren't at least 1
    • If you ever think of something that's all three, never leave it unsaid.
  • source
  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago

    Sometimes it's nice to have a bitch about someone who's annoyed you.

  • source