34[M4F]#Bend looking for a real connection and a long-term AP. Erotica author and nature lover (self.l4l)

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I’m a 34 year old married guy in Oregon navigating a long term dead bedroom and hoping to find someone here who is looking for the same kind of connection. I am not interested in OnlyFans, or clicking links.

6’0, around 200 lbs. Chubby but active. Hitting the gym daily. I spend as much time outdoors as possible. Hiking, fishing, swimming, road trips, waterfalls, forests, quiet lakes. A perfect day for me is finding a rushing waterfall, sitting down with a good book, and just existing in that moment. Or taking a long hike into the woods and being one with natureee or backpacking .

I love reading and I write erotica when I have time. I like reading fan fiction and pretty much any genre of book if it’s engaging. I enjoy deep conversations, curiosity, imagination, and people who can talk about anything from books to life to fantasies. Mental attraction is huge for me. If I connect with your mind, the physical chemistry follows naturally. That being said I do have preferences as do most people.

Someone who can hold a conversation and actually wants to build a connection. Please don’t open with “hey” or one word replies. Effort matters. Personality matters. Curiosity matters. I want that spark that comes from getting to know someone and feeling excited to talk to them every day.

If you’re also looking for something meaningful, discreet, and built on real conversation and chemistry, send a message and tell me about yourself. Effort gets effort back.

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