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She cares for you.
Well, after the food arrived, she demanded I get a Lyft up to her place. She can't figure out what's going on, which is fair, as neither can I. But being back up there in under a week? At that point, it seems the larger question should be that very question of what we're doing. If we're going to talk daily for hours on the phone and act like loving spouses when physically proximate ...
Maybe at some point she needs to stop worrying about what she told her boys about me to absolve herself of all responsibility. They're in their 20s now.
I brought this up to my ex over the course of our usual conversations
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If we are weeks away from never being able to meet again
...🤔
She's moving to be closer to one of her boys, and she led them to believe that all of the issues in our marriage were my fault, so the ability to see her in that setting is nonexistent.
This said, one thing we were never good at was playing by the rules.
why is she taking care of me like this?
Because you haven't eaten in four days. Most people are not so apathetic towards others they know to let them starve to death.
As for your relationship with your ex, it's best if you try to figure that out sooner rather than later. Relationships between people, platonic or romantic, work best with good communication. If you don't know what she's thinking or how she feels, and you're in regular contact with her, then maybe just ask. Just be sure that it comes across as genuine and not creepy.
In fact, why not start by asking her why she would order food for you?
We don't do romance. I did, in fact, ask, and her response was typically blunt: "I have money, and you need food."
Just because I don't want to share a life with my ex's doesn't mean I don't want them to be well and have a functional life. When my drunken asshole mate was in hospital, long after I'd given up on the friendship, I took him a bunch of icy poles, gatorade and my Gargoyles DVDs to keep him entertained. I was sick of his shit but I don't wish him ill.
That is very sweet. I love when exes can still care about eachother even if it isn't romantic
this post was submitted on 11 Mar 2026
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